“People always think that the most painful thing is losing the one you love. But the truth is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too is equally painful.” (LiveLifeHappy.com)
I find that one
of the benefits of being an older gentleman is that at this point in my life I
am certain of who I am, and what I believe. (It doesn’t hurt that at this stage
in my life my demeanor and stature can communicate “don’t mess with me.”) As
I’m right on the edge of becoming a senior citizen, I don’t like it that more
people I love and care about seem to be dying. Here’s a partial list of relative’s
waiting for me in Heaven (the Other Side): my father, stepfather, my younger brother,
my eight miscarriage children, and both my maternal and paternal grandparents.
If I am not
careful, worry can take over rather quickly as I wonder how will deal
emotionally with the death of various relatives (if they go before I do). In my
logical mind, I know the only way I’ll get through any of these events is
through my faith (at that moment. When someone passes away, you want to be
happy their healthy and whole in a better place. Emotional pain only knows the
loss of that individual in your life. Once
you experience it, you do not want a repeat performance.
My sister,
mother, and I have gotten in a habit of saying “I love you” when we conclude a
verbal conversation. (I try to also do it with my sister at the conclusion of
any digital conversation.) You may have years left with the ones you love, but
what if you don’t. Only God knows when He will call a person home to Heaven. “When I die, don’t come to my grave to tell me how much
you love me and how much you miss me because those are the words I want to hear
while I’m still alive.” Make each moment count now
(however that needs to show itself).[i]
[i] The topic of appreciating (and cherishing) today your
living loved ones was suggested by friend and blog member, Roberta Wetherbee.
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