Everyone knows that parenting is at the same time wonderful
and stressful. When
we have children, we know that we'll be parents for life. It would be nice if
everything always went as planned with parenting, but this isn't a movie and
that's not reality. During the times when you feel like you want to pull your
hair out, take a step back and breathe. Take a nap, turn on some music, but
remember that no matter what, you'll be OK.
You will live to
parent another day and your kids will be just fine. Embrace the chaos and do
the best job you can. Your reward will be those beautiful reflections of you. There
are some lessons that life experience will teach you. Then there is other
education that no one tells you about when you become a parent. Unless you press an older family member or friend, you may
not get the crucial details of child-rearing.
1.
There will be times when you can't stand your
children-We all know those parents who say parenting
is always wonderful, but I think we'll agree they're a little off. Parenting is
a joy, but sometimes our children make us want to scream. They hide things,
they lie, and they fight. They do one or the other every day. There is no off
switch and you have to be on guard. There will be more times than you can count
when you'll need a vacation from your children.
There
will be times when they do things that will have you scratching your head. The
only thing you can do is try to remember how we were when we were children, and
try to guide them to the right decision. Our responsibility as a parent is to
teach and guide our children to embrace what makes them special.
2.
There's no one-size-fits-all solution to deal
with problems-Wouldn't life be great if you could just use
one method to deal with your children every time? All of our children are
different and have to be handled in the best way to fit their unique
personalities.
Trying
to do the same thing for each child will only lead to extra stress for you. We
shouldn't try to get them to conform; we should teach them that they are
special just the way they are. There are enough parents who will teach their children
to always color within the lines, but just outside of those lines is where the
magic happens.
3.
All the parenting books in the world won't
help-Don't get me wrong;
there are some books that can help you with a few things. However, parenting is
a unique experience and there are no books for some of the crazy situations
you'll deal with. A lot of things you'll figure out on your own, or in all
reality, you'll learn from your mistakes. Read some trusted parenting books to
get a clue, but prepare to be quick on your feet and ready to handle the
unexpected. Learn how to write your own manual and go back to it when you need
it.
4.
Being a parent is one of the most rewarding
things you'll ever do-Parenting is a hard job that doesn't hand out
raises for a job well done. There will be times when you question why you even
had children. Despite the craziness and chaos, children are amazing. They're
the best of us and have the opportunity to do all the things we've always
wanted for our life.
Children
are a joy and privilege that we get to experience. They are our legacy and will
carry our heritage to the next generation. There are many who would love to be
parents, but don't have that opportunity. Being able to parent children is
something we should always be grateful for even in the hard times.
5.
It's a lifelong 24/7 commitment-When we have
children, we know that we'll be parents for life, but what we don't realize is
that you're on call 24/7 and that never ends. When they have problems, you have
to be there. When they eventually go off on their own and have problems, they
will call you. Be prepared to put your children needs before your own. You
don't have to have all the answers, but you do have to be prepared to be that
shoulder for them to cry on. Take some time for you, but commit to doing
something that's bigger than yourself.
“It is easier to build strong children than to
repair broken men.” (Frederick Douglass)[i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“13
hard truths about parenting no one wants to believe” By Shana Lebowitz
·
“Things No One Tells You about Being a Parent” By Kimanzi Constable
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