Thursday, June 7, 2018

Falling

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, [but] always with the same person.” (Mignon McLaughlin)

By the end of 2017, an estimated 4.4 billion mobile phone customers were downloading and using mobile applications (apps). You either love technology, or you hate it. Very seldom is there a middle ground with this topic. If you are married, did you know that technology may be able to improve your relationship for the better (no matter how long you’ve been married)? If you’re an app user, apps can  do more than you could ever imagine for your relationship with your spouse.  

Connect the power of technology to your marriage. This is not an endorsement to diminish time spent together away without the distractions of a digital world.  If you're having marital struggles right now, take a look at the list of apps below that can be found on your smartphone. These apps help you get to the crucial issue on how good your communication with your spouse is:

1.   Couple (formerly Pair) If your marriage is in trouble, this is one of the top apps to help your marriage that work better. It's free and it allows you to remember all of the special moments, has real-time messaging, allow you to share videos and voice messages. It's a must for any and all couples to have on their phone.. This cute and fun app is presented with a timeline interface, and allows you to update everything from your location, your status, photographs.

It lets you draw pictures for one another, and instant massage in real time as well as have live video chats. One of the funniest little features of the app is the “Thumb Kiss.” When both of you press your thumbs against the screen of your phone at the same time, the phones vibrate and the screen turns red.

2.   Fix a Fight I had no idea that there was actually an app that would allow you to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. This is a must-have app that every married couple should invest in; as it will help you make those repairs that will stop your fighting. This is the only app on this list that’s not free to download. It comes with a $4.99 price tag, but those who have tried it have mostly positive things to say about it.

Like the couples counseling and marriage coaching apps, this app also acts as a sort of therapy. This app also takes a more situational approach, in which couples work through fights on their own by identifying their feelings, understanding their partner’s feelings, owning their part, and identifying what they could have done differently. This app does appear to have real potential in the fight-fixing department, but this potential depends on the individual couple. 

3.   Grocery Smart If grocery duplication is a  is a constant problem you and your spouse have, you need this  app. This app allows making of shopping lists and share them over multiple devices with any one you like. Create a grocery list using the thousands of items within the app. You can also upload your own grocery list.

Once you make a purchase, just cross those items right off the list, and the changes will be sent to all of the connected devices. Did you send your spouse to the store and forgot to tell him to bring a particular item home? Just add it to your grocery list, and receive the update in seconds. Special features within this app allow you to store your club card for easy access at check out.

4.   iLoveNote Created by an Iraqi war veteran who wanted to keep in constant touch with his wife and never lose the memories they have together. What if you could take that old scrapbook of memories, and make it mobile? Now you can. Keep track of your entire relationship. Document your “Date Nights;” relive your dreams as a coupler; keep conversation going with updates and photos; incorporate some secret desires into the relationship to keep the love alive.

 All this and more can be shared secretly between you and your other half while helping to improve communication and organization of the relationship you have together.

5.   Kindu When you are in a marriage for a very long time, it can be difficult to keep up the interest in sex. Kindu is an app for exploring your sexuality with your spouse. It provides over 600 examples of turn ons, fantasy role plays, and sexy activities. Each person privately answers “yes”, “no”, or “maybe” to the options provided. Kindu then reveals the matches you share with your spouse.

Your answers stay confidential; if you say “yes” and your spouse says “no”, your secret stays safe with Kindu. The app offers a safer way to begin discussing sexual fantasies and desires.

6.   Love Maps Sometimes, it's hard to keep track of everything about your partner and if you find that you're constantly forgetting the important things about your partner, such as their favorite food Instead, both of you take this 87-question love map quiz. The more you know about what’s important to your partner. This app will help you and your spouse improve your love maps and strengthen your marriage.

 
7.   Marriage Fight Tracker This app is a must for any couple that is constantly fighting, and still can't get to the root of the problem. Fighting can happen in any marriage. If you're going to keep having the same fight over again, why not have a record? This is a genius app that every single couple (married or not) should have.

 
8.   Mint  A primary stress in a marriage can be financial, so keep that stress to a minimum by being able to see all of your personal finances in one place – from bank accounts, credit cards, to investments. You can keep track of your spending and creating budgets for you and your spouse, and you will see just how easy saving for your future together can be. The app works across multiple device platforms (even your desktop and tablet).

 

9.   MoodKit Your moods can be the major problem in your marriage. With this particular app, It's an app that allows you to take action on improving your mood and your life, it allows you to develop a sense of self-awareness, and allows you to rate and chart how you are progressing.

 

10.       My Marriage Coach Research from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists indicates the overall success rate of marriage counseling is incredibly high with as many as 97 percent of couples reporting that they received the help they needed from counseling. Couples counseling is expensive with a cost of $168.

 Apps like this one provide couples with counseling literature and resources right from a smartphone. These types of apps can serve as inexpensive or even free assistance to those couples who cannot afford to visit a therapist every week. Couples can take advantage of several resources the app has to offer like dozens of short articles, podcast interviews with relationship experts, short video clips, and self-assessments,  

 “Love is blind. Marriage is the eye opener.”  (Pauline Thomason)[i]




[i] Sources used:

·        3 Apps to Help Solve Relationship Problems” by Erika Rawes

·        “7 Amazing Apps to Help Your Marriage ...” by allwomentalk

·        “8 Great Apps for Married Couples” by

 

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