On HGTV’s Fixer
Upper, Chip and Joanna Gaines take on clients in the Waco TX area, turning dilapidated
houses (fixer uppers) in good neighborhoods into the homes of their client’s dreams.
Have you ever felt like a “fixer upper” internally?
Do you ever wish people could give you a chance, and get past your irregular outer
surface? Why can’t they see your exceptional characteristics just below the
surface like a diamond in the rough? [i] (God is the only one who can really fix you up.)
Only you and the Almighty can
determine a person’s self worth. It comes from within. You won’t find it by
having more education, possessions, money, or friends (on Facebook or in your real life). It is a basic human need.
Here are suggestions to help increase your self-respect of the unique creation
that you are In God’s eyes.
“The opinion which other people have of you is their problem (not
yours).” (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross)
1.
Always be
honest with yourself and others. There is no need for lies and the energy
it takes to continue a lie is unbelievable.
2.
At the
end of each day before falling asleep, write down something you feel proud
about (either on the day or in the past).
3.
Do
everything to the best of your ability. Develop a reputation as someone who
takes pride in their work.
4.
Do
something for yourself every day.
5.
Don’t be
afraid to accept help from other people, it means they respect you enough to
help you with something.
6.
Don’t
read a newspaper for a week. Gauge how you feel about yourself, and the world
around you.
7.
Dress as
well as you can for each occasion. Take pride in your appearance.
8.
Eliminate
the people from your life who are dragging you down (if this is possible).
9.
Face your
fears. Nothing will send your self esteem soaring more so than facing
your fears, and eventually conquering them.
10.
Forgive
yourself.
11.
Help
other people who need it.
12.
Learn a
new skill. Take up something you’ve always wanted to do, and be consistent with
it.
13.
Learn the
skill of saying no without offending the person asking.
14.
Listen to
what others are saying.
15.
Listen to
yourself talk, and slap the little person internally criticizing you,
16.
Never
allow anyone force you to break your core values.
17.
Provide
your comments on blogs (like ENCOURAGE ME).
18.
Read a
book a month. Reading a book is actually an achievement in this
media-driven world. Reading a full book is a great way to achieve a sense of
accomplishment.
19.
Reward
yourself as soon as you succeed at something (with a healthy reward).
20.
Sing
inside loudly. It will give you a good feeling.
21.
Speak up
for yourself in every area of your life. Your self esteem will soar.
22.
Start
changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself. Instead of “I
can’t do that” say “I’ve never tried it that way before, but I’ll attempt
something new.”
23.
Stop the
gossiping about others.
24.
Take a
risk. Just get up and do it.
25.
Take a
walk in the rain. (You have the power to decide.)
26.
Tell
someone else how much you appreciate them. Being able to be open and honest is
great for self worth.
27.
Walk as
if you’ve got somewhere to go, and you need to be there now. Never run just
walk tall and quickly.
28.
Work on
your emotional strengths.
29.
Write
down seven minor goals for the week, and eliminate one each day as you achieve
it.
“Self-respect cannot be hunted. It cannot be purchased. It is never
for sale. It cannot be fabricated out of public relations. It comes to us when
we are alone in quiet moments, in quiet places.
When we suddenly realize that knowing the good we have done it; knowing
the beautiful we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it.” (Alfred Whitney Griswold) [ii] |
| The Gaines family |
[i] Diamond in the rough is a metaphor referring to the
original unpolished state of diamond gemstones (especially those that have the
potential to become high quality jewels).
[ii] Sources used:
·
(http://www.imdb.com/title/tt4591390)
·
“29 Ways
to increase Your Feeling of Self Worth” by Steven
Aitchison
·
“A
Diamond in the Rough” from Phrase Finder
·
“Diamond
in the Rough” from The Free Dictionary
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