Biblical steps to healthy
conflict resolution:
1.
Overlook
the offense (if possible)- A person with discretion is not easily
angered. He gains respect by overlooking an offense. (Proverbs 19:11, VOICE) If that cannot happen then…
2.
One-on-one
reconciliation- This is how I want you to conduct
yourself in these matters. If you enter your place of worship and, about to [give
your] offering, you suddenly remember a
grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go
to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work
things out with God. (Matthew 5:23-24, MSG) See Matthew 18:15
above. This step should include prayer
for healing; planning what must be said, picking a time and place to meet, and
creative problem solving. This step is best done in person, and not via the
Internet (or digital communication). If this does not work then…
3.
Objective
mediation- Paul: Euodia and Syntyche, I urge you to put aside your differences, agree,
and work together in the Lord. 3 Yes, Syzygus, loyal friend, I enlist you to please help these women.
They, along with brother Clement and many others have worked by my side to
spread the good news of the gospel. They have their names recorded in the book
of life. (Philippians
4:2-3, VOICE) See Matthew 18:16 above. If this doesn’t work
then…
4. Obeyed arbitration- Here’s another troubling issue. If you have a grievance against
another follower of Jesus, do
you have the audacity to bring that brother or sister into the civil courts
rather than submitting yourselves to the authority of God’s people? (1 Corinthians 6:1, VOICE) See Matthew 18:17 above. If all of the above steps have been followed, it
is alright to drop the relationship. Separation does negate forgiveness (and
letting go of the bitterness).
It
is always easier to walk away from a problem (and sever connections with a
person) than to seek to heal a dilemma. Christians are called to be peacemakers.
Do the best you can to live in peace
with everyone. (Romans 12:18, ERV)
If you wish others to overlook your faults
(and show you grace), you must do the same for them. Think of the kindness you wish others would show you; do the
same for them. (Luke 6:31, VOICE)[i]
[i] Inspired by the sermon “Staying Connected to Through
Conflict: Staying Together” (installment four, final) Sunday August 23,
2020, Pastor Dave Jansen, CenterPoint Gahanna. All CenterPoint churches
are closed due to the Coronavirus, and are meeting online at 10am at the
CenterPoint Church Main Page on Facebook.)
This sermon helped me finally resolve long-held angry feelings towards a friend of mine.
This sermon helped me finally resolve long-held angry feelings towards a friend of mine.
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