Have you ever misjudged someone who eventually became your friend? Our affection for judging often focuses on the person instead of their actions. We shouldn’t be habitually critical of someone else when our own wrong doings are often very evident (to all those around you).
Our choice to criticize another person exposes us to the
judgment of God. We often misjudge people because we’re so quick to pass
judgment without getting to know that person first. Here are some helps to make
you a less judgmental.Try one of these the next time you are tempted to be both
the judge and jury for someone:
1.
Don’t be quick
to judge if you don’t want to be judged yourself One of the basic rules in life is to not do unto others what
you don’t want others to do unto you. It applies to passing judgment. too
If you don’t want to be judged with the wrong standards, don’t do it to others. It’s that simple.
Isn’t it funny that people who love to criticize others can’t stand the
slightest criticism?
2.
Give everyone a
second chance We are all unique individuals with
different personalities and behaviors brought about by upbringing and beliefs.
What may be normal to you may unusual for others. There is no
common standard when it comes to human behavior that’s why it’s unfair to judge
people at face value. It’s not fair to ignore people just because they
don’t fit your standards. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt and a
chance to show who they really are without being labeled negatively.
3.
Keep your
observations to yourself One of the most common mistakes we make in misjudging
people is that we can’t keep our mouths shut. The moment we hear
someone who share our opinion about another person. We can’t resist the
temptation of making it known.
This is how
gossip starts, and it eventually spreads when you find more people who share
that same opinion. It’s embarrassing when a person you gossip about
learns that you’re saying things behind his back so whatever you see and feel,
it’s best to keep it to yourself and get to know the person instead and
understand where he is coming from.
4.
Look at
yourself first before you pass judgment We
are often so quick to judge that we don’t realize that just like, we are not
perfect. Everyone has weaknesses so who are we to judge? Are you sure
that you’ve passed the standard by which you judge others with?
5.
Look for the
good in people Most people are capable of being
good and kind. Instead of being a fault-finder, why not be a good-seeker?
If you want to be happy and fulfilled, you have to get rid of l the negatives
in your life. This includes seeing the positive in people.
“Before you assume, learn the
facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before
you speak, think.” (Anonymous)[i]
[i] Sources used:
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“5 Awesome Ways to Stop Misjudging People” by Noel
Rosos
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