Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a communication process
developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg in the 1960s. It
focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (compassionate awareness of who one is), empathy (understanding inner
beauty in other’s), and self-expression
(expressing oneself authentically).
NVC
is based on the idea that all human beings have the capacity for compassion,
and only resort to behaviors that harms others when they are unaware of effective
strategies in meeting their needs. Habits of thinking and speaking that cause
violence (psychological and physical) are learned through culture.
NVC
theory supposes all human behavior stems from attempts to meet universal human
needs,
and that these needs are never in
conflict. NVC proposes that if people can identify their needs, the needs of
others, and the feelings that surround these needs. Harmony can be achieved.
NVC
is taught as a process of communication designed to improve connections to
others. It has also been used as a spiritual set of values, and parenting educational
techniques. Below are ten ideas in making the world a more compassionate and
peaceful world to live in:
1.
Spend time each day quietly reflecting on how to relate to yourself and
others.
2.
Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
3.
Are we as interested in getting others needs met as much as our own?
4.
When asking someone to do something, see if you are making a request or
a demand.
5.
Instead of saying what you don’t want someone to do; say what you want
them to do.
6.
Instead of saying what you want someone to be; say what action you'd
like the person to take so the person can meet their goal.
7.
Before agreeing or disagreeing with someone's opinions, try to tune in
to what the person is feeling and needing.
8.
Instead of saying "No," say what need of yours prevents you
from saying "Yes."
9.
If you are feeling upset, think about what need of yours is not being
met, and what you could do to meet it (instead of thinking about what's wrong
with others or ourselves).
10. Instead of praising someone
who did something you like, express your gratitude by telling the person what
need of yours that action met.
“How I choose to look
at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or
make matters worse.”
(Marshall B. Rosenberg)[i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“10 Things We Can Do to Contribute to
Internal, Interpersonal, and Organizational Peace”
(https://www.cnvc.org/training/10-step-peace)
·
“Nonviolent Communication” from Wikepedia
Topic suggested by my
friend and blog member, Gracie V. White.
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