Any gardener will admit that pulling weeds is not pleasant part of this outdoor pursuit. The common weed is naturally suited to the sun, soil, and water conditions of your garden. Without proper elimination practices, weeds will become much difficult to remove after they’ve taken root.
Like weeds in a garden, negativity is blooming everywhere. There
are three sources from which negativity can germinate. They include our
relationships, from within ourselves, and our environment. Identifying
negative thoughts, and replace them with positive ones. Improving the
quality of your life this way isn’t always easy, but in the complete picture of
who you are it is worth it. Take control of yourself with these useful
suggestions:
1. Be responsible for your actions all the time: If you don’t believe that you create the circumstances of your life by the
thoughts that you have, pretend that it’s true for now, and act
accordingly.
When something unfortunate
happens, ask calmly, “How exactly did I create this, and what can I do to
create something better?”
Resist the temptation to make a
case for why this isn’t true. Focus on your own life. So when you ask yourself,
“How did I create
this?” ask it not from a victim-place, but from the part
of you where common sense resides. Personal responsibility is
primary to releasing negativity.
2. Believe in God: In order to
dramatically increase your personal success, physical health and happiness, you’re going
to need to be able to surrender your frustrations to God.
Otherwise, all the world’s
problems may push you over the edge emotionally.
A spiritual tradition can work.
It helps to remember that there is an
all-knowing Creator that knows you intimately.
Remember, even
though you don’t have all the answers, your loving Heavenly Father does. This
can help to release you from negativity.
3. Choose more
consciously what you read or watch: How
often do you watch the news with smile on your face? The media is out of
control. Story after story is based on tragic events, disturbing images and
articles that cause a separation in togetherness instead of trying to bring all
of humanity together.
The media and news outlets
need an audience and for years upon years they have used fear, mind control and
absurdity to sell. Of course it’s important to know what’s going on in the
world, but it’s more important to focus on the things we can change.
The more you read or watch
positive messages, the more it gets into your subconscious, and you start
feeling better.
4. Craft new goals: Most people know
about the importance of carefully setting new goals. Only 3% of
professionals actually undergo this vital process regularly. The reason you
craft goals is because achieving goals helps to make you happier, and
improves your personal productivity.
There are important
considerations for setting new targets: Define your goals. Your goal should be
precise, and stretch you as a person. Does this goal increase your sense of
well-being? When do you want to complete this goal?
5. Develop a new self-soothing strategy: Metabolize is an internal process in which you take
something potentially harmful, and turn
it into something useful. It’s hard to get momentum going
on your personal growth if you don’t have a good strategy for metabolizing anxiety.
When it comes time to recognize
something about yourself (something that you sense will be momentarily painful
to see), you might let yourself get distracted in order to avoid the pain.
For example, take a fearful
thought and turn it into a realization that you are stronger than you
previously thought. Take a nervous thought and turn it into excitement.
Anxiety is part of life. If you
don’t find healthier ways to deal with daily emotional discomfort, you might be
tempted to medicate your anxiety with something less healthy, like sugar,
denial, cigarettes, or illegal drugs. There is no one right way to deal with
anxiety. The ability to see patterns in thinking has been
helpful.
6. Generate a different kind of gratitude: Instead of having the l thought of
identifying something for which you are grateful, turn that thought into a
physical feeling. Here’s what works: Decide on something for which you can be grateful,
and then hold that image in your mind for a moment.
Next, imagine your heart becoming very light, and your chest actually lifting a
bit.
Spread appreciation from your heart
until you imagine your whole body glowing. Thinking grateful is good, and
feeling grateful is even better. The cells of your body will thank
you in the form of improved health. Gratitude is essential for releasing
negativity.
Happy
people not only enjoy life more, but also have
more life to enjoy. Pay close attention to your thoughts, and
re-direct thought when they become negative. Forgiving others is one of the
most healing things that can be done. The act of forgiveness can help to derail
the runaway train of a repetitive negative thought.
7. Identify what you
don’t want: Not everyone automatically knows what
it is they want in life.
Once you know what you don’t
want. Think about it only briefly.
There are few things more defeating
than feeling your potential bubbling within you but not knowing
exactly how to apply it in the world. Sometimes the more creative, intelligent
and passionate a person is.
8. Minimize toxic relationships: Toxic relationships
often go hand-in-hand with negativity. If an individual makes you feel
bad unnecessarily about whom you are, then the person is toxic. Toxic
people often make others feel badly in order to feel better about whom they are.
These individuals can often be
family, which makes it difficult to completely remove them from your
life. In cases like this, minimize the time you spend with them. Instead
work on cultivating healthier, happier relationships.
9. Recognize patterns in your life: Imagine for a moment that the universe is a field of intelligence,
creativity and compassion that is automatically configured to give you more of what you’re habitually
focused upon. Try to remember that your energy and your
prosperity go hand-in-hand.
This process of objective
inner-listening might seem at first like a waste of time, but you’ll soon
discover that it’s one of the most productive things you can do. People who
meditate regularly are able eventually to be even more specific when
identifying the chatter that plays inside their mind. You can get rich by
being ruthless, but those people tend to have bad health, disappointing life
reviews, and a shallow kind of happiness.
Vibrant joy that improves your
health (and makes a positive difference to the people around you) can happen
with greater frequency. This occurs because of relationships.
As you become a brighter person,
you’ll attract a more positive circle of people into your daily life. Struggle
and joy are not on the same channel. It is through your joy that good things
come.
10.
See negativity as disease and health as wealth: Personal
growth is the process of looking closely at how you handle
life from the inside, and making the most of your potential. Whether
you have clearly defined goals, or sense you could make more of a positive
difference in the world: looking at your life objectively can help you
to realize your dreams.
One needs to actually be emotionally
alive in order to be in consistent relationships with other human beings. People
who are always slightly tired and harried have a harder time being
fully present for those they love.
Excellent health can be
the antidote. Imagine that negativity is detrimental to cellular health
and that positivity is restorative and healing.
11.
Social media is what you make It (so make
It good): Now more than ever there
seems to be an abundance of individuals living more deliberately. In addition
to this there is a huge flow of positivity. There is still disruptive behavior
that comes in bullying, complaining, predators, tasteless jokes, and the list
goes on. Whatever it is that makes your soul cringe, get rid of it. One thing
that separates you from negativity is how you choose to use a computer or phone)
screen.
Start deleting, unfriending, and inflowing
negativity on Facebook. Do whatever
it is you need to do to protect your emotional well being. There should be no
more inquiring on other people on Facebook
if it only makes you feel terrible. Put the focus back on what makes you feel
excellent.
The harder it is to
determine new life goals because almost everything looks interesting. “What do
I want?” seems like such a simple question to ask yourself, yet answering that
question can be one of life’s great challenges.
12.
We need
each other: These proven relational habits
help humans live longer and healthier: laughing more, pet ownership, and
marriage. One is at greater risk of heart disease without a strong network of
friends and family. Loneliness can cause inflammation within the body.
Isolation in healthy people
isolation can be as dangerous as having high cholesterol or smoking. When we
take the time to actually witness our own thoughts as they occur, we recognize
that they are often centered in the future or the past, which is usually not
calming to our bodies.[i]
ü “The weeds keep multiplying in our garden, which is our mind ruled
by fear. Rip them out and call them by name.” (Sylvia Browne)
ü
“A weed is a plant that has mastered every
survival skill except for learning how to grow in rows.” (Doug
Larson)
ü
“Negative thoughts are like
weeds in your garden and positive thoughts are the seeds of your garden kill
the weeds and feed the seeds.” (Unknown Author)
[i] Sources used:
·
“10 Ways to Remove Negativity from Your Life” by
Brett Blumenthall
·
“17 Ways to Remove Negativity from Your Daily Life” by
David Findley
· “3 Ways to Instantly Remove Negativity from Your Life” b
·
“How to Prevent Weeds from
Ever Sprouting” by Lisa
Kaplan Gordon
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