Monday, May 22, 2017

Signed the Papers

  "If anybody understands God's order for his children, it's someone who has rescued an orphan from despair, for that is what God has done for us. God has adopted you. God sought you, found you, signed the papers and took you home.” (Max Lucado)

A compassionate foster care system will have the same goal as a good adoption agency, which is to find a permanent loving home for a child. A foster child may have special needs due to abuse, neglect or whatever issue led to him being removed from the biological parents' home.

“My adoption was treated as a celebration.” (Michael Reagan)
The rewards of parenthood (whether biological, adoptive, or foster) are apparent in every child rearing triumph, every smile or laugh. It’s important to know how these two processes are similar and different because a child’s future could depend on it.

“More broadly, we are going to have to examine the safety net programs to make sure they are poised to catch the families before they fall even more, especially in the areas of unemployment benefits, child care assistance, and foster care.” (Richard Neal)

1.  Adoption is forever while foster care is temporary: Foster care placements are usually mediated by the court system (or a social services agency), certified by the state in which they live.


Foster care is almost always assumed to be temporary. The goal is to reunite a child with their biological parents. This is after it’s been determined that the minor (in question) can be properly provided for financially, emotionally, and socially.

For adoption, the birth parents voluntarily relinquish their parental rights. They have decided it’s in the best interest of the minor (in question). Adoption also offers legal security to adoptive parents and children in a way that foster care doesn’t. Children who remain in foster care there until the age of eighteen.

“I found real fulfillment through my children and through adopting special needs” kids. (Mia Farrow)

2.  Both processes seek to create permanent loving families: It’s just not always possible for a foster child to be reunited with their birth parents. Adoption can be in the child’s best interests if it’s handled in one of two ways:


Fost-adopt is a process when a child is placed in a foster home with the expectation that biological parental rights will be terminated, and they’ll be legally adopted by their foster parents.

One thing that all of my children, biological and foster children, have taught me is the unbelievable diversity of talent and giftedness that all people have.” (Michele Bachmann)

Legally free for adoption is a process where foster parents can become legal parents of a child, but they’re not presumed to be that at the time of placement. Various organizations can help children like this to be connected with adoption agencies that can get them placed with permanent families.

“If you can help a child, you don't have to spend years repairing an adult.” (Joyce Meyer)

3.  The levels of contact are different: The foster care system actively encourages biological parents to remain in contact with their children with the use of court-ordered visitations. Some adoptions are open and birth parents can exchange emails or even have face-to-face meetings with their children.

Other adoptions are closed, and there’s no contact after a child’s placement with their adoptive parents. It’s a matter of what everyone is comfortable with, and what is in the best interest of the child.

“Time and experience have taught me a priceless lesson: Any child you take for your own becomes your own if you give of yourself to that child. I have born two children and had seven others by adoption, and they are all my children, equally beloved and precious.” (Dale Evans) [i]

4.  Everyone Should Be Supported: Children, biological parents, and adoptive parents receive counseling before and after the adoption. Foster families receive a weekly child care stipend, and are also paired with social workers who can assist them in working through all the challenges.


“Raising kids is part joy and part guerrilla warfare.” (Ed Asner)
“When we adopt (and when we encourage a culture of adoption in our churches and communities) we’re picturing something that’s true about our God. We (like Jesus) see what our Father is doing and do likewise (John 5:19).[ii] And what our Father is doing ( it turns out) is fighting for orphans, making them sons and daughters.” (Russell D. Moore) [iii]





[i] This post does not encompass international adopting or foster care.

 


[ii]Jesus said to them, `l tell you the truth. The Son cannot do anything alone. He sees what his Father is doing and he does the same. John 5:19 (New Testament) (WE)

 


[iii] Sources used:

·       “Foster Care vs Adopting” (adoptionnetwork.com)


·       “What Are the Differences between Foster Care and Adoption?” by Carrie Craft

·       What’s The Difference between Foster Care and Adoption?by: Heidi Gonzalez


 

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