Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Beyond the Imperfections

“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.” (Gerard Way)

There are two types of people in the world: those who choose to be happy (or unhappy). Happiness doesn’t come from fame, fortune, other people, or material possessions. Rather, it comes from within.
Cheerful people maintain a positive outlook on life, and remain at peace with their existence. Happy people have good habits that enhance their lives. They do things differently. Ask them they do things differently.

1.  Don’t hold grudges - Happy people understand that it’s better to forgive and forget than to let their negative feelings crowd out there positive ones. Holding a grudge has a lot of detrimental effects on your wellbeing.

This includes increased depression, anxiety, and stress. Why let anyone who has wronged you have power over you? If you let go of all your grudges, you’ll gain a clear conscience and enough energy to enjoy the good things in life.

2.  Treat everyone with kindness - Did you know that it has been scientifically proven that being kind makes you happier? Every time you perform a selfless act, your brain produces serotonin (a hormone that eases tension and lifts your spirits). Treating people with love, dignity, and respect allows you to build stronger relationships.

 
3.  See problems as challenges - A problem is viewed as a drawback, a struggle, or an unstable situation while a challenge is viewed as something positive like an opportunity, a task, or a dare. Whenever you face an obstacle, try looking at it as a challenge.

 
4.  Express gratitude for what they already have - The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings (instead of yearning for what you don’t have).

 

5.  Dream big - People who get into the habit of dreaming big are more likely to accomplish their goals than those who don’t. If you dare to dream big, your mind will put itself in a focused and positive state.

 

 

6.  Don’t sweat the small stuff - Happy people understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life.

 

7.  Speak well of others - Gossiping usually leaves you feeling guilty and resentful. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.

8.  Never make excuses - Happy people don’t make excuses, or blame others for their failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes, and they proactively try to change for the better.

 
9.  Get absorbed into the present - Happy people don’t dwell on the past (or worry about the future). They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment.

  

10.              Wake up at the same time every morning - Have you noticed that a lot of successful people tend to be early risers? Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state.

 

11.              Avoid social comparison - Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others? You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs.

 

12.              Choose friends wisely - It’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you. The better you will feel about yourself.

13.              Never seek approval from others - Happy people don’t care what others think of them. They understand that it’s impossible to please everyone. Never seek anyone’s approval, but your own.

 

14.              Take the time to listen - Listening keeps your mind open to others’ wisdoms and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets (and the more content you feel).

  

15.              Nurture social relationships - A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other.

 

16.              Meditate - Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere (and anytime) they need to acquire inner peace (and calm their nerves).

 

17.              Eat well - Junk food makes you sluggish, and it’s difficult to be happy when you’re in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your body’s ability to produce hormones (which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus). Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.

18.              Exercise - Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as medications do. Exercising boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.

 
19.              Live minimally - Happy people rarely keep clutter around the house because they know that extra belongings weigh them down (and make them feel overwhelmed and stressed out).

  

20.              Tell the truth - Being honest improves your mental health and builds others’ trust in you. Always be truthful, and never apologize for it.

 
21.              Establish personal control - Happy people don’t let others tell them how they should live their lives. Being in complete control of one’s own life brings positive feelings, and a great sense of self-worth.

  

22.             Accept what cannot be changed - Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is. Focus on what you can control, and change it for the better.[i]

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it.” (Groucho Marx)



[i] Adapted from “22 Things Happy People Do Differently” by Chiara Fucarino.  
Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses.
 

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