Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Value Judgment

“All girls are created equally different.” This is the slogan for Angels and Tomboys, a tween girl product line of fragrances and lotions. These two young lady inventors     (along with their mother) were all three on the TV series, Shark Tank. [i]

The above motto reminds me of Zechariah 3:5 (when the temple was being rebuilt in Jerusalem). Nothings thrill me more as a father than to see my adult daughter, Allena, lift her head up and laugh in uninhibited joy at the moment over something humorous. (The children described below were also having a moment of fun).

“And boys and girls will fill the public parks, laughing and playing – a good city to grow up in.”

For any father that has a one daughter (or many), you know that your life has been enriched (and changed) by the goodness that goes with the female presence of daughters.

Many of the rough edges of your personality have been smoothed out due to fatherhood. Over the years, here are a few of the lessons my daughter has taught me by just being herself:

1.  Gentleness, kindness, empathy, and patience are important character qualities I need to cultivate as a man in general (with everyone). My daughter needs me to acquire them for her sake.

2.  Though visits into “Female Land” (or “Lady World”) can be uncomfortable (and awkward at best) both my daughter (and wife) appreciate my efforts as a man (husband and father).


3.  No matter what a daughter says (at any age), she wants (and needs) security and protection from her father.

4.  It’s important to remember your daughter’s world is seen (and defined) through the lens cap of relationships (and emotions) with others.

5.  What your daughter needs most from you is honest communicate about what’s happening in both of your lives.


I see so much of the positive (and negative) qualities of myself in Allena. There have been so many pitfalls in my existence that I want my daughter to avoid. There are also numerous good habits I’ve picked up over the years that I want to become a regular part of who she is.

My wish for every daughter (and son) all over the world is this:

“I wish for you a life filled with love…a true love to share your every dream…family love to warm your heart…and priceless love found in the gift of true friendship.

I wish for you peace…peace in knowing who you are… peace in knowing what you believe in…and peace in the understanding of what is important in life.

I wish you joy…joy as you awaken every day with gratitude in your heart for new beginnings…joy when you surrender to the beauty of a flower or a baby’s smile…and joy, a hundred times returned, for each time you’ve brought happiness to another’s heart.” [ii]




[i] This term refers to a decision about a person coming from someone else’s own code of ethics.

[ii] To My Daughter by Marci, “These Are the Things I Wish for You.”

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