Priceless

Chances are you have witnessed a husband of a long time marriage literally fall apart when his wife passes away (or die himself soon after).What about the father of young children (child) that tragically loses his wife. Often single parenthood can be a challenge to him.

I try to avoid the “what if” game of life without Bobbi (and all she does and manages to do for our family). It depresses me quite a bit, and I have absolutely no idea how I would react in this situation. Most of the time, I do my best to appreciate (and enjoy) all the many layers of my wife’s unique personality.

The Bible has quite a bit to say about a wife. She is a husband’s best administrative assistant or helper (Genesis 2:20). As a couple, they are considered as one in God’s eyes (Genesis 2:24). In a disagreement between parents and the wife, a good husband will biblically choose the wife’s side (Matthew 19:5).

A good wife is more valuable than the expensive jewelry she wishes you’d buy her for Valentine’s Day (Proverbs 31:10). A first-rate wife honors God (is in good standing with Him), has moral strength and dignity (when needed), offers appropriate wisdom and instruction to her husband (at the right time), and can often be a testimony to an unbelieving husband of God (Proverbs 31:25-26, 30, 18:22, I Corinthians 7:14-16). The Heavenly Father’s desire for your marriage is that it be long and happy (Ecclesiastes 9:9, Proverbs 5:18).

He wants the two of you to get along with each other. Nagging from either one of you is useless. It will not bring about needed change (Proverbs 19:13-14). Like Aquila and Priscilla with the Apostle Paul, God can use your distinct talents (and natural abilities) in a variety of ministry opportunities in your local church.

I wish I could honestly tell you that I have arrived when it comes to being a perfect husband, but I wish to be honest with the husbands out their reading this.

In heated marital disagreements, Bobbi has recorded me with her cell phone. I sound, act, and look much like how I would envision Satan to be.

Bobbi promising me she’ll post it on Facebook if I don’t calm down scares me in guessing if she’s truthful or bluffing. So far she’s respected me, and refrained from showing everyone an ugly side of Robert no one needs to view, or be reminded of (not even myself).

In your wedding ceremony, your fiancée promised before God (and others) to cherish you by spending the rest of her LIFE with you as your wife. (I’m preaching to myself also.)

That commitment for her can be a drudgery or a joy (with how you treat her.) Take a moment to think about the choice you will make with something so exquisitely priceless, her heart. Right now, thank God for all she means to you as a woman and as a grateful blessed husband.

Bobbi when we were courting over the phone long distance.

My beautiful bride almost 2 years after bariatric surgery.