1. Know
your ideal self: Make a list of all the good qualities you intend to
cultivate. Are you going to be kinder, fairer, more tolerant, more generous,
more patient, more dignified? What are your responses to difficulties going to
be? What principles do you wish to uphold?
2. Do
the next right thing.: If you've been struggling with your emotional or
mental state like, it may be difficult, at first, to act with integrity all the
time. You may find yourself making mistakes and sometimes behaving in a less than ideal
way. In order to build up a habit of sticking to your principles, just practice
doing the “next right thing” all the time.
3.
Let go of perfectionism: I could have made my life a lot easier if I
had validated the attempts I was making to do the right thing even when things
were a struggle. Instead, I beat myself up and made myself feel
worse because I was angry with myself for not living right. It's all a journey.
Be imperfect, and still make progress.
4. Make
amends immediately: If for some reason you end up treating someone
unfairly or unkindly, or doing something dishonest or mean, make amends for it
as soon as you can. Don't wait. Correct your mistakes as soon as possible and
you can find peace of mind in the fact that you have improved upon your actions
and done your part to relieve any ill feeling or guilt.
5. Practice
patience: Other people around you may not be living in the same way
that you have chosen to. It doesn't matter; they will have their conscience to
live with at the end of the day, and you will have yours. Choose to respond in
a way that will give you peace of mind. Take a deep breath before reacting to people who push your
buttons.
6. Let
your head and heart support you: You won't have a peaceful mind if you
allow negativity to dominate your thinking. Try to understand others rather
than judging them. Forgive others and you free yourself. Radiate compassion and
be a good Samaritan. Not only will others benefit; you'll also add to your own
sense of self-esteem.
7. Think
long term: It may be tempting to lose your rage when you're feeling angry or frustrated. But
think about how you will feel about yourself and your own actions later on.
Will you be happy about your behavior? Will it lead to you feeling peace of
mind? If not, don't do it.
8. Validate
yourself: You will not get to feel that lovely sense of peace if you
don't take the time to fully acknowledge it. In difficult situations, look at
what you did well. Have you been struggling? Notice when you make progress. At the end of each
day, summarize to yourself how you've acted well and kept your integrity. What
helps you feel at peace with yourself?
“If there's no
inner peace, people can't give it to you. The husband [or wife] can't give it to you. Your children can't give it to you. You have to
give it to you.” (Linda Evans)[i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“8 Things to
Do If You Want to Be at Peace with Yourself “by Beth Burgess
·
“Eckhart Tolle: Why You
Aren't At Peace Right Now” as told to
Leigh Newman
Inspired
by: Netflix
“The World's Most
Extraordinary Homes “
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