The phrase of “eye for an eye", is taken from
the above scripture. It is also known as the Law of Retaliation. This principle means that a person who has
injured another person is to be penalized to a similar degree. In other interpretations,
the victim receives the estimated value of the injury in reimbursement of the
loss. Can retaliation ever be a positive
aspect in your life? Here
are ten ways intelligent people get revenge:
1.
Advise them: Imagine someone is
blatantly taking advantage of you, and you turn around to ask them for advice.
Who becomes the powerful one in this scenario? Who becomes the petty one? Doing something good for someone who
wrongs you is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of intelligence.
Turning the other
cheek diffuses other people’s power. It sharpens the contrast between you and
them, which highlights their negative actions against your positive response.
It also has a astonishing effect that allows you to peer deeply into how these
people think and what they really want.
2.
Create a fog: Start seeing people
coming against you as a gift. At least now you know where they stand. And once
you know where they stand, you can start changing their steps. There are a lot
of people in life who will want to hold you back from getting what you want.
They’ll want to hold
you back not because they want what you want, but because your growth and your
gain highlights their inactivity. When you come against people like this,
simply note who they are and avoid telling them anything personal in the
future. Without knowing who you are and what you want, these people won’t know
how to hold you back.
3. Create a void: When someone takes
advantage of you, your first reaction will be to get them back. You’ll want to
seek justice by holding a mirror up to their face to showing them why they are
wrong. This is a complete waste of time. No one thinks they’re wrong right
away. By immediately
retaliating against someone, you add energy to the situation and strengthen
their resolve against you. You also expose your position.
A better strategy is to sit on your hands and
let things keep. This is especially true when someone attacks you online. Don’t
show any signs of weakness or distress. Instead, slowly phase yourself out of
the situation. Then, wait to see how others respond. Create a void and see what
fills it. This will give you perspective, and help you gain clarity over how
you can best use this situation to your advantage.
4.
Get in shape: One of the first
things people do after a tough relationship break up is start working out. Why?
People who work out two to three times a week are more emotionally intelligent, make better decisions, and maintain more balanced hormone levels. Plus if you look
great and feel great, who cares what else happens to you?
Your health is worth
more than all the money or power in the world, which is why increasing it is
such a great way to get revenge. It supersedes everything in life but is
often taken for granted. So, when you get in shape, you highlight those against
you who are not in shape, while also reaping all of the health benefits that
come with it.
5.
Get transparent: Most people hate
conflict. At the same time, most people have aggressive desires. These people
have learned to go underground and attack others passively. In life, there are
those who will talk about you behind your back, promise support that never
comes, or get others to attack you on their behalf. The best revenge against
these kinds of passive aggressive actions is transparency.
Don’t try to hide the
conflict you’re involved in. Instead, showcase it. Talk about your faults and your
conflicting feelings. Use what you’re going through to teach others.
This kind of vulnerability does not come easy. It takes practice. The more you
practice being authentic, the better you position yourself against others who
want to attack you.
6.
Grow your network: When you get attacked
by someone close, one of your first instincts will be to isolate yourself.
You’ll feel depressed and unsure of whom you can trust. You’ll start to put up
walls. This is always mistake. Isolating
yourself after an attack just opens you up to further attacks. It’s like
retreating further into a castle that’s already been invaded. A
better strategy is to move straight into the forces coming against you.
Go into the obstacle, and not around it.
Instead of turning away from people, open yourself up to them. Talk with your
friends and family members, and make new friends. Build up your connections.
The more connections you have, the more lines of communication you have.
Communication is a critical component of winning any battle.
7.
Hijack their focus: The worst thing about
other people doing you wrong is that they can get inside your head and hijack
your focus. And once they’re in your head, fighting against them is like
fighting against yourself. The best way to get someone out of your head is to
redirect both your focus and their focus.
As it stands, you’re
thinking about how they wronged you and they’re thinking about how you might
respond to them directly. So,
get indirect. Go above them or create an ally with one of their enemies. If
an individual is treating you poorly, go above them. Send an email to their
boss. This will shift their attention from battling against you to
protecting themselves from someone else.
8.
Speak through your work: The best way to get
revenge is to stay supremely rational. Don’t let your
emotions dictate your actions. And
don’t make revenge personal. Getting emotional and personal will distract you and cause you to
do things that you’ll feel bad about later. Instead, make it professional.
Operate as if getting
revenge is a business decision. Someone
has affected the cost-benefit ratio of your life and now you need to move a
chess piece to prevent them from taking more from you in the future.
The best way to do this is to put a spotlight on their behavior. Be
professional.
9.
Start a business: Making something
happen for you is the best revenge. People coming against you have a way of
making you feel out of control. Sometimes
it can seem like the whole world is trying to hold you back. But this is just
an illusion. In reality, very few people are concerned
with you.
Everyone is too busy trying to better their
own lives, and rightfully so. The best way to get back at a world that won’t support you is to
build something on your own. Learn the art of self-reliance. Show initiative.
Launch a business, form a partnership, or start a non-profit. Don’t over think
it, just start it and see where it takes you.
10.
Turn it into your why: The desire to get
revenge is a powerful, motivating force. What a shame it would be to waste it. That nagging feeling you get when
someone mistreats you is really your best friend. The
problem is that most people want to fix this nagging feeling when they should
be using it as a factor to improve their lives.
Study after study shows that revenge
(once exacted) is not sweet. It’s the process of plotting revenge that
lights up the reward centers of our brains. So, use this to your advantage.
Turn your desire to get revenge over those who wronged you into a strong reason
why. This is a reason to grow, and to keep taking action to bigger and bigger
goals.
“Good leadership requires you to surround
yourself with people of diverse perspectives who can disagree with you without
fear of retaliation.” (Doris
Kearns Goodwin)[i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“10 Ways Intelligent
People Get Revenge” by Isaiah Hankel
·
“Eye for an Eye” from
Wikipedia
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