There are some people that are on a constant mission to improving who they are. They want to be more of anything that they feel they already aren’t. These people rarely reach their goals because for them enough is never enough.
We can never stop chasing external objects
that reinforce the thought that we are not good enough as we are. True
liberation comes from accepting your flaws in the person you are right now.
It is a choice to be at constant war within ourselves to try to reach our own
idea of perfection.
Negativity triggers everything bad
that prevents us from seeing just how blessed we are with who God has made us.
Many times you have been influenced by someone (intentionally or
unintentionally), somewhere that you were not. Look for the natural
beauty deep inside yourself. It is there, but only you can acknowledge it.
If you need help with this process, below are tips in doing that:
1. Think of self-development as a journey (not a race): We are conditioned to think
of self-development as a to-do list. Setting specific goals and due dates help
keep you accountable. See your goals as a journey where you are enjoying
yourself throughout. See the stages of your progress as beautiful scenery to
admire along the way. You know that the end of your journey doesn’t validate or
ultimately award you happiness. It’s the whole process that you take with you.
2. Be in love with whom you are now (rather than
who you’ll be one day): We often think so much about our “ideal”
selves that we forget to appreciate who we are today. If you’re working on
becoming fitter, you might lose respect for your present body. Visualizing
your goal can take you out of love with your present self. The truth is that
the “real you” is always the present you, and this is the one who needs your
love.
3. Ground yourself by turning to your foundation: Trying to change yourself
for the better can take you far from your comfort zone. This is critical for
your breakthrough. It can also make you feel a sense of confusion about who
you’re truly supposed to be. Turn to your source, that which has always
inspired and sustained you through your life. This could be anyone or anything.
Then think of your life as a theme and variations on this starting place. Doing
this creates a continuation of your past, present, and future. This lets you
know that you needed all the experiences you had to be where you are today.
This will take you where you want to go next.
4. Remind yourself that you are lovely the way you
are: There
are a lot of results that self-improvement projects can yield. You can
become smarter, more well-read, faster, stronger, leaner, more flexible, more
balanced, more creative, more productive, more successful, and happier. But you
don’t need self-improvement projects to become lovelier than you are just now.
You are just as deserving of love, from yourself and others without changing
yourself for the better.
5. You have been (and are) doing the best you can: We are our own worst
critics; jumping to doubt our own level of effort Almost 100% of the time, what
we do is exactly what we are capable of doing at that time, and no worse. I
know that some of the choices I’ve made in the past were not in line with my
stated goals. I also know that at that time, that choice was the one I could
make, given my mental and physical energies and will power. So be gentle to
yourself. You are enough already.[i]
“Your best efforts will never be
enough when your best efforts are being wasted on the wrong person.” (Sherry L Russell)
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| Ray Kroc, the founder of McDonald's |
[i] Sources used:
·
“5 Ways to Remind Yourself You Are Enough” by
Juhea Kim
·
“When Will Being Enough Be Enough” by Amanda
Allmark
Inspired by the 2016
Netflix movie, “The Founder [of McDonald’s]”
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