Many of you
reading this post are familiar with our conception challenges. Bobbi and I had
both hoped to have a lot of kids when we started our family. Instead we got one
daughter (that we dearly love) and eight miscarriage children (that are in
Heaven). Part of me would not wish that whole experience on my worst enemy.
It’s dawned on
me that maybe I need to view this life experience just a little differently.
Before Bobbi and tried to start a family, he knew our personalities. Our loving
Heavenly Father knew our experience would not be wasted. If you’ve not been through a miscarriage, it’s hard to comprehend all the ways it affects you. Bobbi and I have both had multiple opportunities to comfort (and bless) couples going through this. When I discover a man that’s been through, my heart breaks, and my eyes fill with tears.
This incident was one of the most vulnerable times in my life. What I thought was a curse from an angry God has actually turned out to be a gift from my Heavenly Father that validates His trust in Bobbi and I for this important task. What's in your life that you need to look for the fingerprints of your Heavenly Father in? Are you more empathetic to others because of this experience?
Below are three
suggestions on how you can keep from wasting your pain. It’s a valuable
commodity to the Almighty. Oprah Winfrey said it this way. “Turn your wounds into
wisdom.” The question I need to ask you is “what are you doing with this divine
opportunity (from your Heavenly Father) as a chosen vessel.”
1.
Look for the positive: You must begin to
look for the good that has come from the things you have experienced (good,
bad, and ugly). We may never know exactly why things happened the way they did
on earth until we ask God Himself. Recognize any good that has come from
everything that has happened to you (no matter how small).
2.
Process through this: Most of us are so
overdriven and exhausted that we don’t have any margin to process. You must
stop to evaluate what actually happened. Get some honest, outside help. Then
take some serious time to process this. Even if it’s painful to re-live the
experience.
3.
Share what you’ve learned: Your story won’t have
a profound effect on others if you keep it to yourself. Don’t let what happened
keep you from sharing it with others. Express your story by sharing your
deepest pain and the good that has come from the experience. Share how God has
worked into your life.[i]
“God often uses
our deepest pain as the launching pad for our greatest calling. So be thankful
for the storms, the heartaches, and the pain that you may endure for they only
prove how strong you are…Although it may appear as a setback, it’s really the
setup for the comeback. Trust Him.” (#God'stiming #rebirth)
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| My family with my maternal grandparents in November 2002. By this time we were nine months past our final miscarriage |
[i] Adapted from:
“How to Not Waste Your Pain (in 3 Steps)” by Joel Malm
Inspired by
the audiobook, Let God Fight Your Battles,
by Joyce Meyer
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