Fatherhood Unannounced

The responsibility of fatherhood takes most men by surprise even when they know it’s going to happen in nine months. Men are not really educated very well in how to deal with the rush of love when they hold their newborn daughter (or son) in their hands. How does all this work when the following scenario happens? Who has what responsibility?

Two adults in their mid twenties (Jason and Ramona) have a one night sexual fling. Eventually, the young lady comes up pregnant (as verified by a doctor). She decides to keep the baby, and not notify the biological father as there was no emotional attachment.

The single mother raises the female child to adulthood. The daughter named, Cindy decides one day to look for her biological father. She finds him. He is completely surprised.

The above situation probably happens more than anybody realizes. As you might guess, I have definite opinions about the above scenario. I’m sure Ramona made what she thought was the best decision for her and Cindy.

Even if Jason and Ramona decided not to marry, Ramona disrespected him as a man by not giving him the ability to experience fatherhood. Even if Jason wanted to have nothing to do with Ramona, he would have at least known Cindy existed. Though Ramona wanted to do this all on her own, Jason possibly would have helped out financially if he had only known.

If you are a single female that finds yourself in “the family way.” Make sure you let the father know. After all you didn’t make this child on your own. Whatever you choose just remember the Heavenly Father cares a great deal for you and your unborn child. He’s got your back (for sure).