A
two-faced persons is someone who is insincere, or who acts one way in certain
situations (and then in a different manner in others) .An example of someone
who would be described as two-faced is a person who pretends to be your friend
and then starts calling you names as soon as you leave the room. Two-faced
people exist everywhere around you.
They
are the individuals who have nothing but
smiles, friendship, and understanding for you to your face, but the minute you
turn away they're spreading rumors. They laugh at you when they think you
aren't looking.
Two-faced people leave emotional scars that may never heal with the damage they
do. Two-faced people do not like you.
Don’t
allow the behavior of others destroy your inner peace. It’s not your job to
stop two-faced people, but it is your work not to let them affect you. Here are
tips to handling two-faced people:
Avoid stooping to their level-Sometimes
the best way to fight back is to rise above it all. Seeking revenge and copying
their actions does nothing but make you like them. Be better than that.
Be patient- Find
comfort in the knowledge that you aren't the only one who sees their hypocrisy.
If they treat you wrong, chances are that they have done it to other people.
They may be fooling somebody, but certainly not everyone.
Don't forget to stay positive-When
people drag you down, it's hard to shake off their grasp. It's amazing how free
you can feel when you don't let them get into your head. Don't let them dim
your light.
If you're comfortable, confront them- If it's something you feel strong doing, confront them. You
don't need to be aggressive, but you can be honest. Tell them about the rumors
circulating. Tell them how this makes you feel. Remind them that you once put
your trust in them, and they betrayed that trust. They are responsible for the
next move.
Keep your guard up- People
will have a field day making assumptions about you. Most times, they don't
realize how hypocritical this makes them. That's their problem to own not yours. Although you don't
want to keep walls up in every part of your life, it can occasionally be a
healthy choice. It's best not to invest trust or emotions into those who will
double-cross you.
Know who you can trust-When dealing
with people who can't seem to give it to you straight, it's best to lean on
those who do. Maybe it's a small handful or even a single person, but they can
make a world of difference for your mental health.
Laugh it off-You don't need
to convince anyone of your value if they refuse to see it. Mark it up as a good
story to tell, a lesson in enduring bad times, and move on. The people in your
life should feel lucky to have you in theirs, and if they don't, they don't
need to be a priority.
Let your actions speak for themselves- Circumstances can arise that hinder your performance or
attitude. That's life, it happens. Don't feel bad for not being a
robot––perfectly tuned to everyone else's expectations. You're human. You may not be perfect, but you can do your best.
This may not be enough for them, but it is for those who care about you.
Limit your interactions- Maybe
they're family, a coworker, or a classmate––you can't always get away. Be that
as it may, you can limit your
interactions. If you don't have to speak to them, don't. Go about your business
as best as possible.
Put your faith where it belongs- I put my faith in God, my family, and my friends. It's not
always easy, but it's comforting when you don't have it in yourself. Not
everyone is going to understand or support you, and that's okay. You don't need
them or their approval.
Try not to take their words to heart-This
is the hardest. It's so much easier to let the lies get past your guard than
the truth. Let those horrible people do or say what they will––that reflects on
them and who they are more than anything else. You can't change who they are,
but you can control your reaction.
“Fake friends are no different than shadows.
They stick around during your brightest moments, but disappear during your
darkest hours.” (GreatBigMinds)[i]
[i] Sources used:
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“11 Ways to Deal
with Two-Faced People” by Cassie Knust
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