Oftentimes
we hold ourselves back from happiness because we believe happiness is
contingent upon other people, circumstances and/or it’s something we have to
find (or earn). Happiness
is inside of you, and you have the power to access it anytime you want. Happiness
isn’t some obscure or out-of-reach state of being. It’s a natural part of life
that’s attainable for us all. Are you ready to be happy? If you are, start by quitting these five
things that may be holding you back from true pleasure:
Fearing change-Change can most certainly be scary—no doubt about it. Oftentimes once we get past the (usually
irrational) fear, we’ll find opportunities that would have never come about
otherwise. Plus, seeing yourself disregard fear, overcome obstacles, and thrive
is quite honestly sometimes better than falling in love.
Change is inevitable —
it’s the most natural part of life, and it impacts us all. If we spend our time
fearing what could or will change, we’ll end up missing out on our lives.
Embrace change, even when it’s unexpected. Change always comes bearing gifts,
lessons, and growth. If you teach yourself to always find the blessings and
lessons in change, you’ll lead an exciting and happy life.
Living in the past-There
is value in recognizing errors, learning from mistakes, and making amends for
things you’ve done wrong—it’s called being a responsible, mature person. Many of us
frequent the past on a daily basis. We think about all of the things we said,
did and wish we could change. We spend time being angry at other people for
what they said or did.
But,
the past is gone — it doesn’t exist anymore. So why spend another second trying
to re-live it? There’s nothing from the past that can be changed now. This
moment right here, right now, is the only moment that truly exists. And when we
spend our time focused on the past, we lose our lives in the present. Let go of
the past. Don’t dwell on what you wish you could change. Live for this moment. This is the moment
that counts.
Overthinking-We
become so consumed with trying to say things perfectly, explaining what “we
really meant” when we said you-fill-in-the-blank to so-and-so, and we end up oh
so weary from all of the overthinking. Many times, what we are actually doing
is trying to manage what other people think about us. But why do we worry so
much about what other people think?
If we don’t like ourselves, then
it’s hard to believe that anyone else does. We are selfish people, and we think
about ourselves more than anyone else—so chances are, that person you are
worrying about is probably worrying about themselves or simply thinking about
the things that are going on in their own life. Instead of overthinking your life
— live it, experience it and let it be what it will be.
Putting yourself down-We
all do it. Sometimes it’s because we really don’t like ourselves; sometimes
it’s to make others (and ourselves) laugh. Being able to laugh at yourself is
one thing—it’s attractive to be comfortable enough in who you are to let things
go. Don’t take yourself so seriously. However, telling yourself that you’re
stupid when you make a mistake or blaming yourself when someone else has
clearly wronged you is not healthy. If you are chronically speaking unkind
words to yourself, you can do some serious damage.
After all, we hear our own thoughts
more than anything else throughout the day. Let’s learn to give ourselves
grace. We
all make mistakes and have insecurities. But, if we obsess over our
insecurities and mistakes we’ll never be happy with who and what we are. None
of us are perfect in our human form — and that’s okay because we’re not
supposed to be. We’re here to learn, grow and experience life. You are worthy
and deserving of love, abundance, and goodness. You are enough as you are now.
Lift yourself up — you deserve it.
Trying to please everyone-Be
kind, respectful, and do your best to love your neighbor as yourself—be a good
person.
During childhood, many of us grow up believing that in order to be accepted we
have to appease everyone around us. The problem with this is when we spend all
of our time trying to please others, we end up neglecting our own needs and
living life for everyone but ourselves. Not everyone is going to approve of how
you live your life and that’s okay. This is your life, not theirs. Live your
life for yourself and you’ll be amazed at how the universe opens doors where
there were only walls.
“The secret to permanently
breaking any habit is to love something greater than the habit.” (Bryant McGill)[i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“5 Things to Quit Right Now If You Want to Be Happy” by Antasha Durbin
·
“5 Things You Need to Quit Right Now” by Ashley Johnson
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