In 1960, most Americans held the
traditional Christian belief of no sex before marriage. This value system is also shared by both Muslims
and Jews that premarital sex is wrong. Since then, public opinion has changed,
and most people now think that premarital sex is okay (even healthy and good). Our
grandparents were right, and we are wrong. It has often been noticed that
evolutionary psychology confirms a new defense of traditional moral views on
sex.
Evolutionary psychology also shows
why casual sex does not come naturally to people, and why they can’t be
satisfied with it. Many prefer sex in the context of a committed relationship.
Premarital sex is messy and troublesome due to conflicts of interest between
men’s and women’s selfish genes. In this respect, it contrasts sharply with
marriage, which creates a harmony of genetic interests. Men and women are
different in the area of sex.
Children are the large, obvious
reason why marriage is good for society and why premarital sex isn’t. Sexual
relationships always absorb a lot of people’s energy and attention, so they
impoverish society unless they give something back. Marriage makes the next
generation, under the most favorable conditions. Premarital sex is usually not
intended for procreation, and if it does result in children, they enter life at
a disadvantage because they lack stable parental commitments to raising them.
Premarital sex isn't smart. There are more
disadvantages to premarital sex than what society leads us to believe. Science has established data (backed up by solid
research) regarding the apparent effect of premarital sex on marriage. (Remember, their can always be exceptions to each one of the statements below. Are you the marital exception?):
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Premarital sex tends to break
up couples.
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Many men and women do not want to
marry a person who has had intercourse with someone else.
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Those who have premarital sex tend
to have less happy marriages.
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Those who have premarital sex are
more likely to have their marriage end in divorce.
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Almost 5% of American women ages
fifteen to forty-four unintentionally get pregnant.
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Persons and couples who have had
premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
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Having premarital sex may fool you
into marrying a person who is not right for you.
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Persons and couples with premarital
sex experience tend to achieve sexual satisfaction sooner after they are
married. They are likely to be less satisfied overall with their sex life
during marriage.
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Poor premarital sexual habits can be
carried over to spoil sex in marriage.
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Guilt may push a couple into a
bad marriage.
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Premarital sex robs a couple of “sexual cement.”
“Hollywood has glorified adult premarital sex, and that is unhelpful
if your goal is to reduce teen pregnancy and out-of-wedlock births.” (Joe Lieberman)
Who invented sex in the first place? It was God’s idea. There
are many verses in the Bible that are
for a relationship that saves sex for marriage. Here are four:
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God wants you to be holy. He wants you to
stay away from sexual sins. (1 Thessalonians
4:3,
ERV)
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Marriage
should be honored by everyone. And every marriage should be kept pure between
husband and wife. God will judge guilty those who commit sexual sins and
adultery. (Hebrews
13:4, ERV)
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So
run away from sexual sin. It involves the body in a way that no other sin does.
So if you commit sexual sin, you are sinning against your own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18, ERV)
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Surely you know that your bodies are parts
of Christ himself. So I must never take what is part of Christ and join it to a
prostitute!
The Scriptures say, “The two people will
become one.” So you should know that anyone who is joined with a prostitute
becomes one with her in body. (1
Corinthians 6:15-16, ERV)
“SAFE SEX:
if you're gonna make love with the person, whom you love so much do it wearing
the safest thing a wedding ring.” (Anonymous)[i]
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[i] “11 Known Facts about Premarital Sex” by Daniel Macaraeg
·
“Why
Premarital Sex Is Wrong” by Nathan Smith
This topic was requested
by a good friend (who will remain nameless) that felt it needed to be
discussed.
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