Saturday, September 22, 2018

Different

You’re definitely a different person at different stages in your life.” (Anonymous)

 Life is always in continuous progress. You all grow, develop and mature. As you continue to move on in life, you move from one stage to the next one. What’s true for all of us is that there are a number of distinct stages of life you go through once the time is ready. Ancient Indian texts discuss four age-based life stages. In ancient Greece, philosophers (and lawgivers such as Solon) mapped the life cycle into ten seven-year lasting periods.
 
Developing an understanding of the different stages of life can help to better explain the challenges human life presents. Understanding a healthy transition is the key to happiness. Sometimes trauma and death are the only way that you can move past one stage to the other. It’s all about development of strength in the face of adversity.

Just as you live, you will eventually die. For your descendants life will go on as your legacy continues with what you’ve left behind.  To better understand life in general, here are the four stages that makes up all human beings in the world:

1.     Stage One: Play, Imitation, and Education
Birth – Infancy – Childhood – Adolescence

Stage one in l life represents the basics. In this time of life, you learn how to walk, talk and other simple tasks like feeding yourself. You observe other people’s behavior and imitate their actions. This helps us to pick up important abilities and skills. By mimicking others, you gradually learn to fit into society. Rules are imposed upon us, and you are taught to behave and think in socially acceptable manners. Out of all the stages of life, this one helps us to lay the proper foundation.

The greatest danger you encounter during this stage is that you are not able to let go of the need for external confirmation. Some people never manage to move out of this stage. In their mind, they are still adolescents that imitate adults. They try to fit in and do everything they can in order to please others. The dependency upon other people’s approval prohibits the individual’s growth and development. The capability of independent thinking has not yet reached a state in which you are courageous enough to embark on our own journey.

2.     Stage Two: Self-Discovery, Enterprise, and Adventure
Adolescence – Early Adulthood – Adulthood


Stage two begins in adolescence or early adulthood and generally ends in the late twenties early thirties. The child has grown into an adult who now has to apply the skills learned throughout the initial stage of life. The education of the adolescent continues. It is now a more focused approach to acquiring knowledge in various different disciplines. The end of adolescence marks the beginning of adulthood. It is the longest phase in the human life cycle. The bodily transformation reaches its completion.

 It is a time during which the young individual explores life, and goes out to leave their mark on the world. The education has been completed and the focus lies now on acquiring a good job. The second stage is all about teaching us to be truly individual. You start increasing our independence by making decisions of our own, but you also have to accept the consequences that come with it. You challenge ourselves and seek to gain our own understanding about life. Most importantly, you finally have the courage to discover who you really are.

You want to learn what separates us from others. The desire to explore life increases our willingness to take risks. You start to experiment with new and exciting possibilities. You make mistakes, learn from them, and continue with something else. One crucial lesson of the second stage is to show us that you are limited. You discover our weaknesses and are confronted with our failures. Stage two helps us to stand apart.

3.     Stage Three: Dedication, Contemplation, and Benevolence
Adulthood – Midlife – Mature Adulthood

Stage three is initiated when the responsibilities of the individual start to increase. What was once an independent being will find itself confronted with many different challenges among them coping and financial pressures. Wishes of independence, exploration, and freedom are now replaced by marriage and the wish to settle down and start a family. The third stage plays a significant role in an adult’s life. It is during this time when you initiate the life cycle once again by having children of your own. The focus now lies on the growth of one’s career and development of the young family.

A major turning point during stage three has arrived once the children begin to leave the nest. But now, for the very first time, the individual is confronted with a new situation. The obligations and responsibilities placed by society upon them start to decrease. Perhaps for the very first time, the individual starts to ponder about the true meaning of their life. It’s a stage of deep contemplation.

While some develop a profound understanding of human life, others will find themselves in a midlife crisis. At the beginning of stage three, you are calmer. The third stage can be categorized as the process of decluttering one’s life. You have a much clearer understanding of the things that are truly important to us. Our patience with time-wasting activities and energy-draining friends decreases drastically.

It’s a stage where many of these mindless hobbies and bad friends leave never to be seen again. The pursuit of your dreams has become more important to you than anything else. This stage of life is centered on the creation of your legacy. You will strive to make the most of your life by living up to your full potential. All of this is fueled by the desire to leave your mark on the world. Most people in stage three have the desire to leave the world a better place than how they found it. Stage three begins in the 30s and ends around retirement age.

4.     Stage Four: Retirement, Wisdom, and Renunciation
Late Adulthood – Death


During mature adulthood, the children have left the home, and the work life of the individual reaches its completion. In many cases, the elderly take up a new role of volunteers and mentors who guide the younger generations. They represent a source of wisdom the following generations can tap into if they are wise enough to do so.

While this is a painful experience for the relatives of the deceased one, it serves as a reminder for the younger generations to make the most out of their time on Earth, and to be grateful for their lives. The last stage in a human’s life is well deserved. People worked hard all their life long, accomplished great things, and ensured the continuance of their family and mankind.

 From a psychological perspective, the last stage helps us to accept the fact of our own mortality. Stage four is psychological, and it’s about finding meaning in life and death. By this age, you should be at peace with the human condition. The end will come, and you have accepted this truth.

 “Everyone has a friend during each stage of life, but only lucky ones have
the same friend in all stages of life.”
(Anonymous)[i]




[i] Sources used:

·        “4 Stages of Life: Where Are You on the Journey?” by Learning Mind

·        “The Four Stages of Life” by Steve Mueller
 

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