Is it possible to be happy with yourself
right now, and still want to change your life? Can you be content and evolving
at the same time? There is a powerful balance between happiness in the moment
and action toward the best version of you.
You
don't need to wait for change before you are content. Choose to see all of the
good and beauty around you. This moment is our only reality. If we long for
some version of the future, we haven't truly lived and enjoyed the blessings of
this present reality. Wishing for something better at the expense of
contentment in the moment robs us of life.
We’re our own worst enemies
when it comes to living a life that’s filled with purpose.
Some of us are
self-destructive without realizing it, and others lack the knowledge in order
to improve. It is impossible to find true friendship
until we first love ourselves. People who are empty are prone to abusive,
manipulative, chaotic relationships.
The only solution to finding healthy relationships with
others is to develop a healthy relationship with you first. This solves two problems at once: First, you get
healthier so you are attractive to (and attracted to) healthier people.
Second, if you find yourself in a situation you don't
like, you know how to be alone and are less afraid of getting out. Healthy
people are not attracted to anyone who is ready to make them their world. The
right person has confidence and
self-assuredness that can only come from being comfortable in their own
life. Eliminate these six habits, and become the best version of yourself
for both you and others.
Stop the fear of failure: Does
failing worry you that people will think you’re stupid? Does failing make you
worry about the future and the desired lifestyle you seek? If any of these
describe you, then you likely suffer from atychiphobia (or fear of failure). It’s important to realize that
failure is a natural part of life, and doesn’t signal the end of the world.
Highly successful people have all failed at some point in
their life. Failure is needed because that’s when valuable insights are learned
that can drive you to become highly successful in life. Overcome your fears by
analyzing all potential outcomes, practice positive thinking, have a worst-case scenario to ease your worries, and
practice setting goals.
Stop the fear of success:
Do you get nervous when everything
seems to be going well, but in your mind life can’t possibly be this good so
naturally something goes wrong as expected? Do you get close to making the
major breakthrough, but something falls through? If these examples happen
repeatedly, this isn’t a coincidence, it’s actually a fear of success. Fear of success hides in our subconscious and displays
itself in scenarios like the examples above.
People are afraid of success for a myriad of reasons, such
as fear of losing their identity, more responsibility being added, raised
expectations, and not being able to handle success well. Success is a good
thing, everyone deserves to live out his or her dreams and have a positive
impact on the world. Handle success by staying authentic and remembering who
you are, accept you won’t please everyone, and be comfortable with every
decision you make.
Stop people pleasing: It’s time for
you to stop playing the role of the victim, and start becoming selfish by
putting yourself first. For each second you remain in this people-pleaser role,
a piece of you dies.
People pleasers are taken advantage of, prone to stress and
depression, develop resentment over time toward people in their lives, and are
prone to health issues such as weight gain. Once you quit people pleasing,
you’ll regain your sense of who you are and build up confidence. Live your life
to be yourself.
Stop criticizing and judging others: Do
you notice how some people have a short fuse for those who have ideas that are
different from theirs? Do you realize how quick people are to judge and label
other people without knowing them, and to not consider it? To become the best
version of yourself, you need to eliminate all negative energy.
When you throw negative energy at people, you’re potentially
damaging a person’s self-worth and self-esteem. You’re also throwing buckets of
negative energy out into the universe yourself. Nice people achieve more than those who are selfish and bitter with the
world. Avoid criticizing and judging others by not assuming anything; know it’s
not about you, and see the situation from their perspective.
Stop procrastination: Perfectionism
is the mother of procrastination. Procrastination is another form of laziness.
Procrastinators damage themselves from becoming the best versions of who they
can be.
Procrastinators are sidetracked by insignificant factors
that ultimately derail their goals. To stop procrastinating,
make you actions precise and calculated, have some form of accountability
established, and set your goals up in a way in which they are small,
manageable, and easily achievable.
Stop the negative self-talk:
“I
could never lose twenty pounds.”
“I’m
so stupid; I could never do that job.”
“I’ll
look dumb and weird if I try to wear some of those clothes.”
When
you receive a compliment about your work, you say, “Oh, that’s nothing.”
These are the types of things most people say when suffering
from negative self-talk. Self-talk is a normal process we all experience, but
once it becomes filled with irrational ideas that are negative, then there’s a
problem.
The story that goes on in your head is a hundred times worse
than the actual story going on in your day-to-day life. Silencing the inner
critic and putting a positive spin on things are two of the best ways to
eliminate negative self-talk. Start by eliminating negative vocabulary, such as
always, can’t, never (and ever), won’t, but, should, and try.
“You did not wake up today to be mediocre. There is so much power in
making someone smile.” (Dr. Renee C. Meeks) [i]
[i] Sources used:
·
“25 Ways to Become the Best
Version of Yourself” by Barrie Davenport
·
“6 Ways
to Become the Best Version of Yourself” by Susan J Elliott
·
“Starting Today, Stop These 6 Things to Become the
Best Version of Yourself” by Julian Hayes II
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