Wednesday, June 7, 2017

The Center

“The dinner table is the center for the teaching and practicing not just of table manners but of conversation, consideration, tolerance, family feeling, and just about all the other accomplishments of polite society except the minute.” (Judith Martin)

Table manners in the mid-fifteenth century England were dissimilar to that of 2017. Men wore hats at the table to keep their long hair out of food. Guests (both sexes) brought their own knives, and food was eaten with their fingers. Forks were used for cooking and sometimes for serving, but never for eating food. It wasn't until about the year 1465 that forks began the transition to an eating utensil.

There were no napkins, and guests were warned not to clean their teeth on the tablecloth.  Handkerchiefs were unknown. Men were requested to use their knife hand to blow their nose, and not the hand whose fingers were used for food.

These times would not have been easy for a vegetarian. Meat was the national food, and vegetables were scarce and despised.  Water was not a beverage of choice. One national beverage in England was beer. An allowance of one gallon of beer a day (even for nuns) was common. Drunkenness was very seldom punished.

Table manners over the centuries have evolved. Whether you're eating at a restaurant, or at home with friends and families, good table manners make for a more pleasant meal. Here are some basic easy-to-follow table manners that should always be remembered:

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1.      Ask for food to be passed to you (instead of reaching across the table for it).

2.     Chew with your mouth closed.

3.     Cut only one piece of food at a time with your knife and fork.

4.    Avoid slouching. Sit straight in your chair. Don’t place your elbows on the table while eating (though it is okay to prop your elbows on the table while conversing between courses).

5.     Hum (or sing) at the table.

6.    Keep your cell phone off the table, and set to silent (or vibrate).

7.     Not ask for food seconds until others have had firsts. (Don’t take more than your fair share of food.)

8.    Not gobble up your food (slow down).

9.    Not overload your fork or plate. (Don’t use your utensils like a shovel or stab your food.)

10.Not pick your teeth at the table.

11.   Remember to place your napkin on your lap (and use it when needed).

12. Say "excuse me" or "I'm sorry" if you burp.

13. Say "may I please be excused" before leaving the table.

14. Say "no thank you" if you don't want a certain dish (or are full).

15. Take part in the dinner conversation.

16.Talk about pleasant things. Avoid the gross topics

17.  Not tip your chair (to avoid having an accident).

18.Wait to check calls and texts once you are finished with the meal (and away from the table).

19.Wait until everyone is seated before starting to eat.

20.     Wait until you’re done chewing to swallow a drink. (Choking is clearly an exception.) Don't talk with your mouth full.[i]

“In our fast-forward culture, we have lost the art of eating well. Food is often little more than fuel to pour down the hatch while doing other stuff (surfing the Web, driving, walking along the street). Dining al desko is now the norm in many workplaces. All of this speed takes a toll. Obesity, eating disorders and poor nutrition are rife.” (Carl Honore)



[i] Sources used:
·       “Top Ten Table Manners” by The Emily Post Institute
·       Manners: Table Manners (http://www.mtstcil.org/skills/manners-1.html)
·       “Table Manners & Trivia Facts” (http://www.foodreference.com/html/f-table-manners.html)
 
This topic was suggested by my wife, Bobbi.

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