One of my biggest gripes in our
society today is sayings that you mean at the moment, but really don’t care for
the answer. Some people honestly mean these things, but others use them to be
viewed as nice (and caring) in today’s society.
My first example is the question,
“how are you?’’ Unless it’s someone who really cares, they want the answer
“fine.” The next time someone asks you that question (who you know is only
being nice) be honest, and watch their eyes glaze over, or wander to their
phone or someone beyond you. In the
future, don’t ask this question unless you are prepared for an honest answer.
Refrain from asking this at a funeral (memorial service, or celebration of
life) because the answer is obvious that person is not doing well. It’s an
insensitive question to ask at a time like this.
At a death service, this Christian
statement is made to comfort the bereaving, but is often not followed through
on. It is, “I’ll be praying for you.” How many people do that, or forget about
their promise by the time they get home. Do this instead. Say a short pray with
the person right there. I guarantee your thoughtfulness will leave a lasting
impression of thoughtfulness. The receiving line may not be happy with you, but they will wait for a brief prayer to God (for this person in their time of need) If you
feel uncomfortable with that, go somewhere and say a prayer so you will not
forget to. This person needs your prayers more now than ever.
Never say, "I promise..." You have no idea if you can fulfill what you are promising at the moment. Avoid doing this with a child as they expect adults to follow through on promises. They have problems with shades of gray. Death is the great promise breaker. Instead say, "I will do my best to..." This statement allows room for change. It is not as definite as "I promise..." I always appreciate statements based in reality (rather than non-reality).
Never say, "I promise..." You have no idea if you can fulfill what you are promising at the moment. Avoid doing this with a child as they expect adults to follow through on promises. They have problems with shades of gray. Death is the great promise breaker. Instead say, "I will do my best to..." This statement allows room for change. It is not as definite as "I promise..." I always appreciate statements based in reality (rather than non-reality).
We should all live by the
advice given in Matthew 5:33-37 (MSG). Are you doing this? “And don’t say
anything you don’t mean…You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke
screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or
saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it... In making your speech sound
more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you
manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.
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