Thursday, December 31, 2015

All Creatures Great and Small

If you’ve ever had (or currently have) animals (of any breed) in your life, chances are that it amazes you just how intelligent they are. Without the use of human language, they can communication with their own unique sound (or gesture) their feelings (about you or their world), and what they need (or want from you). Without animals in the world, I think life would be quite boring (and lack the color) that our animals bring to it.
I have always believed that God has unconditional love for His children because of the gift He gave of His only Son, Jesus, to Earth (John 3:16). Though some people may disagree with me, with all our phobias (and hang-ups), I don’t think it’s possible for many human beings to really love unconditionally.
In His infinite wisdom, I believe God gave that quality to our animals (and pets). I believe this is exactly the reason why when someone loses a pet (they were close to) that it leaves a hole in their heart they may never recover from. They realize that this form of pure love is not granted to many during their lifetime.
I watch very few DVD’s (or movies) about animals. The 2015 drama entitled, Max, took me through an emotional journey that I won’t soon forget. Here is the synopsis:
A precision-trained military dog, Max (a German shepherd), serves on the frontlines in Afghanistan alongside his handler, U.S. Marine Kyle Wincott. But when things go terribly wrong on maneuvers, Kyle is killed and Max, traumatized by the loss of his best friend, is unable to remain in service.

Shipped stateside, the only human he seems willing to connect with is Kyle’s younger brother, Justin. Max is adopted by Kyle’s family. However, Max may be Justin’s only chance to discover what really happened to his brother that day on the frontlines. With the help of a tough-talking teenage girl named “Carmen” (that has a way with dogs), Justin begins to appreciate his canine companion.

Justin’s growing trust in Max helps the four-legged veteran revert back to his heroic self. As the pair race against time to unravel a mystery, they find more excitement (and danger) than they bargained for. Each will also find an unlikely new best friend in each other.
If you have never had an animal (or pet) in your life, please consider it. Some people will choose dogs (or cats) for companionship.
If you make the decision to become a pet owner, I am against getting one from a pet store. With all the adoption centers available, the price is cheaper, and you could help the self-esteem of an animal that has already been rejected once. (In the case of kill shelters, you are literally saving an animal’s life that is scheduled to die.)

My dogs have not been cheap over the years (with their vaccines and dog food). At times their fights and accidents are absolutely annoying. My family has been repaid many a time with the love and laughter our Chihuahuas have brought to our home just when it was needed the most (in the tense moments of life). If you are unfamiliar with pet adoption, why not give it a chance. You might just find out that this was one of the wisest decisions you ever made.
The movie

Our canine babies (left to right) Lola, Chico, Rosco
                                                     Views of daughter's Chihuahua mugs

I love my Chihuahua

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Going for the Jugular Vein

Genesis 2:24 (MSG) states, “Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh.” Regardless of all the marriage enrichment things I’ve been part of (or read) throughout my passionate marriage are often forgotten in the midst of “intense moments of fellowship” as my friend Chris gives it a spiritual twist. The better known secular name for this is arguing.
I have been comfortable arguing (or loudly speaking) with my wonderful bride in a variety of locations besides my home. If you can imagine a place, chances are a marital disagreement has occurred there. Why I choose to embarrass my very proper bride is beyond me. Loud arguing has been a normal part of the fabric of Allena and the dog’s lives for longer than I can remember.
Though I dearly cherish Bobbi and will never leave her because my name is on the mortgage (just joking). Our irritation with each other has many times ended with threats of separation (or divorce).There have been threats of divorce (or separation) multiple times in the past.
It never goes through because we really do love each other (although it doesn’t sound like it). Unfortunately many times when I’m writing to encourage you all, the two of us are not verbally celebrating our fondness for each other. Maybe I should adhere to my own advice, and stop all the hypocrisy.
Disagreements tend to start with me when I’m hungry (much like our Chihuahuas), tired (for any reason), or not feeling understood or respected. Bobbi’s reason circle around the lack of affection I haven’t given her lately (in any form), and pain or worry and (over Allena, bills, or obeying God).
If you are a couple like us, I would give this piece of advice to both you and me. Remember, your spouse chose to be with you for the rest of their life. Why make it miserable? How important are these disagreements in the long run?
Stay off topics where compromise cannot happen. I’ve been told arguments cease to happen (or die out quickly) where you each speak softly instead of loud yelling.

Always refrain from topics that will cause severe damage to the one you love. (In our case, this would be our multiple miscarriages and the ability to conceive again.) If you are married like me, let’s all make a stronger commitment to not fight to emotionally cripple (or better yet choose silence). 


We Are the World

In 1895, Mary T. Lathrap’s poem, Judge Softly, brought the cliché, “walk a mile in his moccasins” (and all its variations in years to follow) into the American society. What follows is an excerpt from that poetic work:
Just walk a mile in his moccasins
Before you abuse, criticize and accuse.
If just for one hour, you could find a way
To see through his eyes, instead of your own [ideas]*

In the 1970 (seventy-five years later), Joe South’s song, Walk a Mile in My Shoes, eerily expressed a similar sentiment in its chorus:
Walk a mile in my shoes
Walk a mile in my shoes
Hey, before you abuse, criticize and accuse
Walk a mile in my shoes
Ephesians 4:32 (MSG) says, “Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.” Think of it this way. God has forgiven you repeatedly for your mistakes, and gives you a fresh do over each time. If God can do that for you should you allow that to others?
When you lose your patience with a co-worker, the cashier at our favorite store, a friend or family member, do you truly have any idea why they are acting the way they do. Maybe they have a health issue which puts them in constant pain. That in turn makes them a bit crabby and short on patience.
Possibly there was a family crisis right before they saw you. Though the reasons for unpleasant behavior could be endless, I believe this still does not give someone the right to treat others horribly.
My feelings have always been that if you treat people badly that they may not be there when you need them the most. The Golden Rule is still the best to follow. “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.”
Stand up for others in times of crisis as others have done for you in the past. Proverbs 18:24 (NLT) remind us, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly…” You can’t out give when it comes to kindness.

*Original word was “muse.”

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Completely Profitable

One of my all-time favorite philosophers is Oprah Winfrey. I admire what she’s accomplished with her life. Recently, I heard her speak the following statement on her new Weight Watcher commercials. The truth of “nothing you’ve ever been through is wasted” struck me like an emotional lightning bolt.
One incident God chose to allow us to experience together as a couple eight times was our miscarriages. This is not something either Bobbi or I would have chosen to be “the experts” at. Through this experience Bobbi was able to co-lead a miscarriage support group (see Bobbi’s Story) for women grieving over the loss of their babies.
Unless we’d had both gone through this dark time early in our marriage, how could we have possibly had the unique opportunity to empathize with those that didn’t see a way out of this devastating life event.
I think God knew in His infinite wisdom that our marriage could only handle one high intensity child (so much like me). More than one Allena could be extremely stressful for Bobbi and my marital union. (Though I do love my unique daughter very much.)
I have had a very methodical process I’ve used in writing the three books I’ve had published (All for One; Dear God, Please Make Me the Person My Dogs Think I Am; and Whatever).
Though I’ve never reached world-wide fame with my books like authors Janet Evanovich, Sophie Kinsella, Richard Paul Evans, or Nicholas Sparks has, several friends that wanted to know the proper way to organize a manuscript for easy accessibility during the editing process contacted me.
It’s sad to think I am the closest thing they know to a famous author, which I am not. (Really, I like to hold people captive with chatter on a subject I have experience on.) Whether any of these people got their manuscript published because of my input is not important. It’s good to know I improved someone’s existence.
Let me say how much I admire someone passes the talking stage of writing manuscript, to writing it, and finally seeking a publisher. (All are hard stages by themselves.) The public can’t read what you’ve written unless you put it out for the world to view by electronic or hardcopy.
The positive aftershocks (of weight loss) in our family as a result of my wife’s 2014 bariatric surgery (see My Three Wives) could never have been imagined in my wildest dreams. Bobbi has had the opportunity multiple times to communicate with other women considering the same type of procedure.
Bobbi has encouraged (to look to a positive future), empathized (with their concerns), and educated (about after care) those women she has spoken. As a result of wife’s sharing, the love of God has been shown.
Now that you’ve read all about me let’s talk about you.  What life experiences have you been through that help (or enrich) someone else’s life. If it’s not possible to do that as a job, have you ever thought about volunteering for the right organization that will allow you to use your experiences?

Will you hid the light God has given you, or allow your talents to shine brightly for Him and others (Matthew 5:15-16)? Only you can make the decision that is right for you.

Monday, December 28, 2015

Who Really Cares

“I’ve always wondered who’s actually glad they met me.”* No one can fully realize the impact of their words and actions (negative or positive) on another person’s life. Are you an agent of change (or encouragement) in another human being’s existence (or the exact opposite of that? Take just a moment to consider that question.
Proverbs 27:6 (NIV) states, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” There are colleagues of yours, who will “kiss up” to you just to become your friend so you can introduce them someone you know, or acquire something you have.
Then there is what I call those valuable “diamond” friends. They are fewer in number. They want to get to know the real you (both good and bad). They have absolutely no problem setting you straight when you are wrong.
You can always rely on their valuable input to set you back on the right path (when you stray). Correction of any type is rather unpleasant, but wouldn’t you prefer the truth from someone that has your best interests at heart (whether that’s a relative, friend, or animal).
Facebook can only give you a fleeting glance of the many individuals that call themselves your friend. Unfortunately many people don’t discover their full worth until they are dead, and no longer physically alive to appreciate what is being said about them at their own funeral.
People reminisce, and discuss how the physical shell being honored impacted their life positively. Why didn’t someone think to make those sentiments known while that man (or woman) was still living, and could those words to make important life alterations?
If you need to express love for someone important in your life do that now. Flowers at a funeral are nice when an person is deceased, but they can never take the place of communicating to living, breathing human being.
If you don’t have a true friend, make it your life goal to find one. Do me a favor if you have a real friend. Take some time to let them know how valuable they are to you. Whatever your friendship status is God is always there for you (night or day). He will never let you down.

*Author Unknown

Sunday, December 27, 2015

A New Opportunity

Have you been thinking of your New Year’s resolution for midnight on January 1, 2016? Will this upcoming year be one of deliverance and plenty (instead of defeat and regret) for you?*
Only you and God (our Good Shepard) can determine which choice will be made. In the upcoming year possibly you’ll have the courage to break free from debilitating habits in bad relationships, go back to school, cut off the chains of extreme debt, or finally be free addictive habits.
Consider the emotional cost of your actions of your actions as you receive wise counsel (Luke 14:28, Proverbs 19:20). Pastor Dallas Willard adds this insight: “We are to see every event of life as an occasion in which God will confirm His competence and faithfulness.”
Has God’s confusing and bizarre performance in the past been hard for you to follow? You wonder when God will get in line with the plan that you know is best for your life. Things always go simpler when God’s plan is followed.
If you listen to the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit, you probably know what needs to be done. It is futile to fight against God because He always wins in the end (Act 26:14).
God never grows tired of hearing your plans for the future. He’s always will to listen to any positive changes you want to make in your life.
Let go of the junk that is holding you back from God’s lavish blessings. He wants you to be free of fear, receive direction and protection from Him, and be able to trust Him entirely (through good and bad). God wants you to do your best, but you can always leave the results up to Him. He knows exactly what needs to be done.

*Adapted from a sermon by Pastor Kelly Preston (on December 27, 2015) of Eastside Community Church, Gahanna, OH

Reality

If you have have cable (or satellite) TV, you’ve come to realize life is seldom like a Hallmark (Lifetime, Ion, or Up) movie. All relationship, holiday, spiritual, work challenges are seldom completely and happily resolved (for all parties involved) in a two hour time span. Our existence is often messy, unpredictable, and confusing.
Sometimes what we get in life is not what we wanted or expected. There are crossroads in everyone’s existence where we make decisions that affect the entire scope of our future (or health or family issues may require us to).
Did you ever wonder how things might have gone if you had chosen path B instead of street A? Whether that is marrying someone else, choosing another job, or being of another faith.
Colossians 3:23 (NLT) says, “Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than people.” It’s important to include God into your current (and future) decision making process.
The lesson I need to learn from the above verse is that the actions I do for my family, a work boss, or others is actually being performed as a child of God for Him ultimately.
This puts a whole new spin on everything. Life may not be a Hallmark movie, and it could be that deep in your heart you’ll always wonder what another life choice might have been like.
God does not expect us to constantly bully ourselves emotionally over lost opportunities that we should have taken. All He wants us to do is to make the best of all that He has given us in our life today.
Hold God’s hand tightly, and allow Him to be the best Friend you’ve ever had. He wants to be there for both your good and your bad in your life. Proverb 18:24 (MSG) says, “Friends come and friends go, but a true Friend sticks by you like family.”



Friday, December 25, 2015

What’s a Girl to Do?

On December 22, 2015, (Tuesday afternoon) a close friend out-of-state (“Godgy”) of my wife’s contacted me at my place of employment, the Staples at Easton Market, to request that I buy a rather unique gift item (that I knew our store carried) and a Christmas card for Bobbi from him to be opened on Christmas day with the rest of our family gifts. Message delivery like this has happened to me before. (see Uncomfortable, but Needed)
I knew about Bobbi’s friendship with Godgy. They had been good friends at one time. Bobbi’s life today had caused communication alterations with the two. They still tried to do Facebook regularly. After work at around 2:15pm at the nearby card store (Party City), I looked for a very special holiday greeting card.
I knew Godgy wouldn’t find a humorous card (with Santa or a bouncing puppy dog) appropriate for the message he wanted me to write inside it. When I saw the simple religious card with Mary (and the Baby Jesus) on it, I knew I’d found exactly what Godgy would want from me to put on His gift.
Over the next couple days I fretted (and wondered) how Bobbi would react to Godgy’s generosity. I asked several friends (as well my adult daughter, who was home on Christmas break (from Youth with a Mission) to remember me in their prayers. Allena promised she would keep my secret. In her eyes this whole thing about God communicating with her father for her mother was cool thing.
As some of you may have guessed by now, Godgy is God. On Christmas day, I had set instructions (that I should not stray from or add to). My wife was to be unaware of any of this until Christmas Day when she would first open her card, read and absorb the message from God, and then open His (mysterious) present. Done this way everything made sense.
How would my wife react when she read this following note in her card? (After 23 years of marriage I thought could make an accurate prediction.) “My Precious Daughter, I want you to know just how much I love you. I am so very proud of you. Robert fought me on giving you this gift. I hope you will allow it to help you to relax. GOD”
The avalanche of tears and peppering of questions about the process I predicted didn’t happen. Instead there was unexpected silence. At first when she read her card, she thought in my absentmindedness I’s wrapped a gift for our daughter, Allena, and given it to her in error. In the silence I confirmed none of this was from me.
When Bobbi opened God’s delightful gift, she told me she’d had one as a child (1970’s), and always enjoyed using it. Her bubbling laughter upon holding a classic Etch A Sketch magic screen in her hands was warm and reassuring that this had been the right thing to do. Bobbi confirmed God’s message of love and peace in her hectic life was needed now more than ever. *
Why do I always worry so much about what God wants to do in my life? Could it be I have no control over His outcome to make it turn out the way I want it to? God’s end result is always better than anything I could have ever imagined.  I need to RELAX (just as God told Bobbi).
Psalms 56:11 (NLT) says, “I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?” I need to be more vigilant in trusting God’s creative methods in resolving challenges as I strive to do His will to the best of my ability.  What about you?
* In the mid 1950’s, Andre’ Casagnes, a French electrician, conceived the idea for an earlier prototype of this toy, which would later be produced by The Ohio Art Company. (The very first Etch A Sketch was produced in Bryan, OH, July 12, 1960.
Bobbi and God's Christmas surprise



Thursday, December 24, 2015

The Tattoo

A thirty-something female patron (“Maneisha”) proceeded to my register to purchase a couple items. I noticed she had a quote tattooed on her left arm. I asked her about it as I scanned and bagged her Staple purchases.
Maneisha explained that the following quote (by Dan Millman) was one of her father’s favorites (and hers as well). It spoke to the deepest part of her as a woman and a daughter.
(As I was not able to write the exact saying down at the time, this is the closest facsimile I could discover after the fact.) The quotation says, “Life comes at us in waves. We can’t predict or control those waves, but we can learn to ride the surf.”
Even if one is doing everything thing right during their lifetime, unexpected health, financial, or relationship crises (negative in nature) can completely derail the life path one has planned for their future.
There are also fantastic things that can happen (which can change the mindset of the individual receiving them). Examples of this could be becoming a spouse, parenthood, grandparenthood, venturing into a mode of employment, or effectively altering your spiritual connection with God.
The prime example of this in my life was my cancer (Lymphoma) in 2009. Though I am in remission now, I remember the fear (and questioning of God) during this period of time. I very quickly realized I had a choice to make. I could be negative about this whole experience, or learn to find the positives. I chose the last choice. Several individuals told me I inspired them (on my free Caringbridge website for sick people) as to the way I was dealing with this challenge. 
During this time, I was able to get published; immerse myself in volunteer work (I couldn’t effectively do with a fulltime job); our family adopted our two beloved male Chihuahuas (to be with me during the day); and I got to see our daughter, Allena, (thirteen at the time) off and back from her school bus.
I won’t say positive thinking will make everything in life perfect because it won’t. Sometimes you have to combine that with your faith and hard work to get the results you want. Give it your best try, and see what happens.
 Maybe the right opportunity will come along, and alter your boring life to something quite extraordinary. Stepping outside of all that makes you feel comfortable could produce results you never imagined were possible.


Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Affected

“Everybody makes their own decisions and…choices, but they’re not the only ones that suffer the consequences.”* Galatians 6:7 (MSG) says it this way, “Don’t be misled: no one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest.”
A farmer can’t grow corn, and later expect a return of lima beans. Nature doesn’t work that way. Whether you agree or not, what humans you do has a ripple effect to those in their circle of influence.
It is just matter of time that the stuff in your life that you have tried to keep hidden from others (for fear of condemnation) will somehow raise its ugly head to be made known. That’s the way it always goes.
Throughout history a variety of leadership (in both the secular and spiritual realm), have discovered the above rule to always remain true no matter what. Will you keep from experiencing this painful truth by learning from those who’ve already been through it? (Please keep from getting emotionally burned.)
Though it is necessary (and important) at times to let others know what’s happening in our lives, it is essential to communicate (and regularly confess) to our Heavenly Father the wrong we’ve done to ourselves and others (Matthew 6:12,  I John 1:8-10).
Change can happen soon (if you wish it to). This attitude can be both intimidating and challenging at times, but it definitely yields a better you. So keep forgiven (in both Heaven and on earth). Though this is tough, it definitely is an achievable goal for you.

*Jill Duggar Dillard, Jill & Jessa: Counting On

My Funny Bone

“I’m not funny. What I am is brave!” That was quoted by the late actress and comedienne, Lucille Ball, star of the Lucy Show. Proverbs 15:13 (MSG) adds this additional insight to the above truism. “A cheerful heart brings a smile to your face; a sad heart makes it hard to get through the day.”
One constant with my wife (Bobbi) is that when she is stressed out over our bills (or scared about a situation in a family member or friend’s life), the outlook seems to be much better if she can cry because of a dramatic movie (or because of some insensitive thing I’ve said or done).
I tend to be the opposite of that. A good laugh over my favorite comedy tends to take me right out of the doldrums. Have you ever noticed that some individuals tend to giggle (a little or a lot) when some awful situations enter their life? They choose this over the alternative of sadness for their own mental stability.
I think philanthropist, comedienne, and host, Ellen DeGeneres (of The Ellen Show), gets it right with her TV show theme to “have a little fun. “
In life there are times to grow up, and take on adult responsibilities (I Corinthians 13:11). Maybe we could all use the healing power of laughter in whatever form life brings that to you.

That could be through a movie, an event, or a casual discussion with a close friend. As always, the choice is yours. Just be sure not to miss out on one of life’s greatest benefits. If you can laugh at yourself, I truly believe the blessings of life can become more obvious. Just look for them. They are there. Trust me.
Lucille Ball

Ellen DeGeneres

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Do You See What I See?

Our perception of God influences every area of our [existence].* What is your opinion on this very insightful statement? Colossians 1:16 (MSG) says, “For everything…got started in Him and finds its purpose in Him. He… holds it all together right up to this moment.”
We are all created in the image of God, doesn’t that mean that some part of the Almighty influences our every interaction at home, work, church, or in our recreational pursuits?
If you make a godly decision in a stressful situation; you have obeyed your Heavenly Father. When a poor unfortunate soul deserves condemnation from you, but instead you breathe encouragement into their heart; a loving Heavenly Father is evident in your life.
Galatians 1:15 (MSG) says, “When I was still in my mother’s womb He chose and called me out of sheer generosity.” Whether you believe it or not, God is pursuing you. Has He caught you yet? As His child (rebellious or submissive), you are of great value to Him. Can you see that?
As your Creator (and Architect), He knows the best path for your life that will provide the greatest sense of personal satisfaction.  Can you allow someone else in the driver’s seat of your existence? (Giving up control can be scary.)
So, the ultimate question boils down to this: Will you listen to the lies of the Devil, or trust the wisdom of the Almighty? Only you can make that choice.

*Eastside Community Church website, www.eccag.org

Friday, December 18, 2015

Love Statements from a Wife (to Her Husband)

1.  You look handsome.
2.  I’m so proud of you for fill in the blank.
3.  I trust you with my life.
4.  I want to grow old with you.
5.  I support your life endeavors.
6.  I appreciate you for fill in the blank.
7.  You make me happy.
8.  I was wrong for fill in the blank.
9.  You give my life purpose.
10.     How can I encourage you?
11.     I’m fine with you spending a night out with your guy friends.
12.     Have I told you lately what a fantastic fill in the blank you are?
13.     I enjoy spending time with you.
14.     You make me look good.
15.     Do you like my new negligee? (Let’s get naughty tonight.)
16.     I feel safe around you.
17.     You are a godly man that I respect.
18.     You are my best friend.
19.     I made your favorite meal tonight just because I love you.
20.     Can I help you with that?
*Adapted from 9 Things a Man Wants to Hear by Tennille Ford of The Marriage Club


Thursday, December 17, 2015

Three Things God Is Incapable of

1.  God Can’t Lie: The Bible reminds us that His words are true. “This is the life God promised long ago-and He doesn’t break promises.” (Titus 1:2)
2.  God Can’t Change: Unlike us, God unwavering and constant. “I am God-yes, I am. I haven’t changed…” (Malachi 3:6)
3.  God Can’t Allow Sinners Into Heaven: Jesus said, “Unless a person be born from above, it’s not possible to see… [the] God’s kingdom.”  (John 3:3) This is very bad news for us “all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” To enter Heaven, we need new life. Because God loves us, He has provided the way for us to be born again, and cleansed from sin. “What do I do to be saved, to really live?” (Acts 16:31)

*Adapted from Moments with the Book (www.mwtb.org)

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

My Secret

Have you ever done something that could be considered wrong, but for you it’s the right thing. At my daily work life at Staples as a Cashier, there’s been something (that only my wife knows) that I avoid telling other friends and family members.
In the right pocket of my black work pants (right next to my cell phone) is a thin gold-like case of my blog business cards. I only give out a blog card when I feel lead by God to encourage one of the store’s patrons I am checking out.
I’ve never asked for permission at Staples to do the above. Technically since Staples does not know; they cannot ask me to stop. (The business cards were printed up at the store I work at. I am providing free advertising for Staples every time I feel the need to encourage.)
So far the security system in the manager’s office has never caught me on camera, or the boss is choosing to ignore my actions. None of the customers I give my blog cards to has ever brought it to someone’s attention. They appear to be thrilled with this personal touch.
When I let a customer know (sometime during our interaction together) that I have something for them, they look a little confused until I pull out my business card from my pocket. I tell them I write an encouragement blog, and that they might find it enjoyable.
Though customers repeatedly assure me they will check my out my weblog, I wonder how many people shove my card in their purse (or pocket) and never think of it again. I have to leave the results up to God. Only He can direct the right person to the words they need to read (and understand).  I could go crazy hoping my blog becomes famous. I try to remember if my blog changes one person positively that it could transform the world.
I Corinthians 1:25 (MSG) says, “Human wisdom is so tiny, so impotent, next to the seeming absurdity of God. Human strength can’t begin to compete with God’s ‘weakness.’” If you are open to God’s leading, He may ask you to step completely outside of your comfort zone. 
Take it from me; it’s exhausting to try to figure out the Heavenly Father’s motive behind what He wishes you to do.
Even though at times, the Almighty may appear crazy (and clueless) with His requests; obey Him anyway in the midst of your doubt. Romans 8:28 tells us this: “That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.”

  Are you willing to let go of all you hold dear to gain that which is priceless (beyond compare)? God has amazing plans for your life. He’s knocking at your heart’s door right now (Revelation 3:20). Take a chance, and let Him in. You won’t be disappointed.

Saturday, December 12, 2015

The Birthday of a Matriarch

It was Saturday, December 12, 2015 (at around 12:30pm) at the Golden Corral Buffet & Grill in Gallipolis, OH. Many new friends or relatives (which I’d not seen in a long time) were gathered to celebrate the 100th birthday  of my feisty maternal grandmother, Erma Odessa (Parsons) Eagle.

When my grandmother arrived at her birthday party, she quickly realized the many people assembled had taken time out of their busy lives to let her know (in a very visible way) just how much they loved her especially on the afternoon of this special celebration.

As the power of the above message began to completely envelop her like a warm afghan, I saw something happen I rarely get a chance to view. Grandma’s eyes began to tear up.

Like the polite, self-less, grand lady I’ve always known my grandmother to be, she began to travel from table to table passing out smiles, hugs, and verbal appreciation to those that were in attendance.

Grandma even decided to share her care and a meal with her close friend (as opposed to her biological family), who was suffering mobility issues due to a recent accident.
Every person gathered here today (around fifty-five individuals) has their own unique memories of how my outspoken Grandmother has managed to touch their lives. To know Erma Eagle means you get the assurance of her love (no matter what).

If it were not for the sixty-five year marital union of my centenarian (100 years or older) and her soul mate, my late maternal grandfather (Robert Henry Eagle) there could have been no me, siblings, mother, uncle, cousins (and their kids), or daughter.

My grandmother is an amazing person. She enjoys cooking, gardening, canning, basket weaving, and being with family. Her longevity is credited to her spirituality, staying active and busy, living a clean life, and eating a good variety of food.

During my grandmother’s lifetime she has prepared over thirty Thanksgiving and Christmas meals for her extended family. She spent twenty years as a Head Cook for Vinton Elementary School and North Gallia High School, and ten years as a Supervising Cook for North Gallia High School.

When Grandma was just two months old, she had a fever that should have killed her. She was brought home in a shoe box to her mother, who fed her squirrel broth. She accounts her survival to that simple act by her loving mother.

In the year 1915 (when Grandma was born), many notable events occurred. Here’s a small sampling:
1.  The U.S. House of Representatives rejected the right for women to vote.
2.  The silent film "The Birth of a Nation" opens at Clune's Auditorium in Los Angeles (This was the first twelve reel film in America).
3.  Cook Mary Mallon (known “Typhoid Mary”) is arrested and returned to quarantine on North Brother Island, New York after spending five years evading health authorities, and causing several further outbreaks of typhoid.
4.  A hurricane kills 275 people in Galveston, TX with $50 million in property damage.
5.  The first transcontinental radio telephone message is sent. Ford Motor Company (under automobile inventor, Henry Ford) manufactures its one millionth Model T automobile.
6.  Irving Berlin and Harry B Smith's premiere their musical Stop! Look! Listen! in New York City, NY.

Some of the world events that grandmother would have been aware of during lifetime (or been affected by) included: World War I (1914-1918), Prohibition (1920-1933), the Stock Market Crash (1929), the Great Depression (1929-1939), World War II(1939-1945), the
Korean War (1950-1953), the Montgomery Bus Boycott (1955), President John F. Kennedy’s Assassination (1963), the Civil Rights Act (1964), Vietnam War (1965-1973) the Gulf War (1990-1991) and 9/11(2001).

Our older generation is dying at an alarmingly fast rate. The website, www.nationalww2museum.org, estimates that around 492 World War 2 veterans are dying daily. By the year 2036, it is a possibility these brave warriors will all be gone.

If you have a senior citizen left in your life that knows about history that you weren’t alive for, thank God they still are with you. Their valuable insight into your family’s past is an important insight into the future of the real you.

If they are willing (and able), take time to record their personal historical accounts as told by them. You’ll both be glad you spent the time together to discover just how much you are alike in the adventures you’ve both had.


Maybe you can teach the other person something with the unique wisdom both of you possesses inside. Be quick because time is not on your side in this endeavor. Listen now as the clock of your life ticks faster than you thought was possible.

The Eagles as teenagers in love 

The Eagles with my siblings


The Eagles in 1991

The birthday girl with her cake

Me with Grandma, Mom, Sister (3 Very Strong Women)


Sunday, December 6, 2015

The Necessary Choice

Hope changes everything.*Whether it’s teenager anticipating a much longed-for electronic gadget on Christmas morning; a senior citizen that remains upbeat in the midst of physical illness (expecting that one day a cure will be discovered for their infirmity); or a twenty-something person that is in the midst of a crisis of faith. They are desperate for something (or somebody) to provide them with the answer their emotional well-being depends on.
Though hope (the temporary kind) can be found in a multitude of people, places, or possessions, the permanent brand of hope can only come from God Almighty.  James 3:17 (MSG) gives us a clue as to how that happens. “Real wisdom, God’s wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercies and blessing, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced.”
I believe real hope starts when a person has the faith to do all that is physically possible for them to do while leaving the results of their deeds to the Heavenly Father. (James 2:14-16) For people who have been badly disappointed in the past it’s difficult to give up control to a Higher Power.
This might seem more like a recipe for failure instead of a way to view a small light of hope at the end of a dark life tunnel full of fear and disappointment.  Are you aware that the action of giving (or casting) can ultimately have the end result of hope?
Psalms 55:22 (NLT) states, “Give your burdens to the Lord, and He will take care of you…” In closing, you can continue to do what you’ve done in the past that has not worked. The results have been disastrous. Instead, you could choose to get the Author of Hope completely involved in your life.
I guarantee the results will turn out to be something you could never have imagined. Who the real you is depends on your choice. Do the right thing.
*From a sermon by executive pastor, Greg Preston
Eastside Community Church, December 6, 2015
Gahanna, OH

Friday, December 4, 2015

That’s So Girlie

Females today are pulled in so many directions with all their family responsibilities, work obligations, and the unrealistic body images Hollywood presents to them on a regular basis. In the clamor of everyday living what are the qualities that God bestows on his loving daughters that make them so delightfully different from the male human being.
An authentic woman…
1.   Sees herself beautiful just as she is right now. (Song of Solomon 4:7)
2.   (As a mom or grandmother) treasures all the memorable events her children (and grandchildren) do throughout their life. (Luke 2:19)
3.   (As a wife) works with husband to attempt to achieve a harmonious marriage. (Ephesians 5:22)
4.   Is aware her personal worth to those around her is priceless. (Proverbs 31:10)
5.   Knows that there will be times throughout her life where she must stand, and be a catalyst to positive change for someone. (Esther 4:14)
6.   Realizes one of her best characteristics is how she helps others in her own unique way. (Genesis 2:18)
7.   Understands that how she dresses speaks volumes about her moral fiber as a woman. (I Timothy 2:9)
8.   Is certain there is nothing she can’t do with God’s help. (Philippians 4:13)
9.   Learns nagging accomplishes nothing lasting to its intended for. Try praying to God for help instead. (Proverbs 19:13)
10.                     Is present for the rather difficult events in her life out of duty to those she loves. (John 19:25-27)
I have barely scratched the surface of what is available in the Bible. Along with a good concordance, discover more of what God desperately wants you to discover in His Word. Change is not always easy, but your Heavenly Father has as many chances as you need to get it right.

He loves you. In fact, I can hear Him calling your name right now. Don’t resist your urge to run into His arms right now. Believe me; He’s missed His time with you.

Man Up

In my Thursday morning men’s group (see Masculinity at its Best), the following question came up: “What makes a guy a man?” The Heavenly Father has some worthwhile reminders for all those of the male majority:
A real man…
1.   Knows a good heart attitude is more important than an attractive outward appearance. (I Samuel 16:7)
2.   Understands (as a father) he should not purposely try to irritate his children. (Ephesians 6:4)
3.   Realizes (as a husband) he should love his wife sacrificially with everything he is. (Ephesians 5:25)
4.   Seeks for divine wisdom in the midst of life’s challenges. (Psalms 10:4)
5.   Keeps his sexual appetites in line with his beliefs. (Proverbs 5:20)
6.   Refrains from doing foolish things that could be physically harmful to him. (Proverbs 6:26-28)
7.   Refuses to be disgraceful in any aspect of his life. (Isaiah 50:7)
8.   Puts away immature actions, and does not shirk his responsibilities. (I Corinthians 13:11)
9.   Assists those he cares for when they need his help the most. (Luke 2:5-7)
10.                     Shows his emotional strength by remaining obedient to the Almighty throughout his entire life. (I Kings 22-3)
These are just a few needed reminders (or Robert’s Ten Commandments) I wanted to share with you from me to you. Like the virtuous woman of Proverbs thirty-one, the above are goals to strive for and not a destination. 
Every man alive knows deep inside what needs to be done so that the version of who you are is visible to others. What’s stopping you from getting there? Excuses haven’t worked for you (or me) in the past, nor will they get you the desired results in the future.

Along with every man that reads this post, it is way past time for us to “man up” to what we know our destiny needs to be. Can I get a big AMEN?

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Newly Improved Allena 2.0

For anyone who has ever listened to the song, “Something in the Water” performed by country artist, Carrie Underwood, deals with the life-changing act of baptism. Some of the powerful lyrics to that song are as follows:
“Couldn't fight back the tears so I fell on my knees
Saying, ‘God, if you're there come and rescue me.’
Felt love pouring down from above
Got washed in the water, washed in the blood and now I'm changed and now I'm stronger.”
Baptism comes after someone asking Jesus into their heart as their own personal Savior (see Salvation by the Book). It involves immersing into water (not sprinkling). One needs to be aware of what they are doing.
A baby cannot be baptized (as they are not making a conscience choice at this age).This is an outward sign to show others (as well as yourself) that you want to be seen as a follower of Christ.
Jesus gave us an example of doing this act of obedience when He was baptized by His relative (possibly a cousin) John the Baptist. You can read the account of this in the gospels (Matthew 3:13-17, Mark 1:9-11, Luke 3:21-22, John 1:29-33). Matthew 28:19, 20 gives us a clear command to be baptized (as well as baptizing others).
Like my daughter, Allena, I was lead to the Lord in the privacy of my home by my mother when I was five years-old. Three years later an eight year-old Allena understood the concept of baptism as best she could with child-like intelligence. (We were attending First Baptist Church in Gahanna at that time.)
Her decision at that time was heavily influenced by making her parents happy, and following in footsteps of her good friend. Allena has very little memory of this event (even with the pictures that were taken).
At nineteen, Allena completely understands the significance of her choice at Akron First Assembly in Akron, OH (while she is at Youth with a Mission). My daughter knows this is a new start in her desire to be a dedicated Christian.
Some things never change (at both FBC and AFA), In both locations Allena’s mom (Bobbi) was assisting the females as they came out of the warm water from the baptistery as new creations in Christ.
Singing superstar Carrie Underwood summarizes in her song, “Something in the Water’ what I want you to think about as you finish this post.
“And now I'm singing along to amazing grace
Can't nobody wipe this smile off my face
Got joy in my heart, angels on my side
Thank God almighty, I saw the light
Gonna look ahead, no turning back
Live every day, give it all that I have
Trust in someone bigger than me
Ever since the day that I believed I am changed
And now I'm stronger.”



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